What is the point? Long hair is a necessity for some of us, even those of us who behave as though we couldn’t care less whether we wear a weave or go without!
If we are to be honest with ourselves, there are innate reasons why black women want longer hair. That want has implications on our need for social, esteem or self actualization fulfillment.
If we are to dissect the issue in direct relation to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, long hair is desirable to us because it allows us to feel confident about our appearance.
Indications That Long Hair Is Necessary
Let’s face it, we walk around with our weaves or other extensions with a bit more pep in our step because we feel a certain sense of acceptance that feeds our need for dignity and inclusion.
If you were decked out in your finest lacefront and a strong wind out of nowhere just came and yanked it off in a crowd, can you honestly say you wouldn’t be humiliated?
Would you continue to the office or the club and leave it lying in the street unconcerned about what people would think, or would you bolt for the nearest door? If you can say yes to both questions without reservations, well golly for you!
But I am willing to bet that if you give truth a chance, many typical black women cannot say yes since many would not be caught dead without some type of extension. If that’s the case, that may signify a social need for long hair which is satisfied by compensating with wigs, weaves or whatever extensions there may be.
Some of us are self proclaimed divas and long hair, whether naturally grown or manually installed, helps with the status. The long hair that for centuries has represented delicate femininity across cultures and generations, lends credibility to your status as a sexy vixen, because hair is a woman’s beauty.
Many a man has remarked that he wants a woman with hair he can run his fingers through so some of us feel there is a direct relationship between the length of our hair and our desirability. If the long hair you wear makes you feel good about yourself, this may signify that you are seeking to fulfill your self esteem needs.
Those of us who have succeeded at growing it long or are on our journey, be it natural or relaxed, have reached the pinnacle of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. We are at the self-actualization stage, where we feel the need to push the boundaries, transcend the limitations which have been set on us and be independent of the dominant culture or our environment.
Originally posted 2013-12-16 15:00:37.