The great thing about being a blogger is that I get to reach a lot of people with my opinions, as unguided as they sometimes are, and I also get to hear a lot of peoples opinions on the same subjects too.
As a result, even though my opinions remain firm in most cases, I have developed a more rounded view of hair care and even when someone disagrees with me, I am still able to see and understand their point of view.
A comment on a post in another black hair blogger’s website caught my attention recently. The commenter took offense to the fact that length was even being mentioned on the blog.
The commenter made the claim that there was a parallel between how long your hair was as a child and how long it could ultimately become as an adult. The thinking was that if your hair was long as a child then length is guaranteed as an adult and if your hair was never long then it never will be and you should just concentrate on health and ultimately that’s all we should talk about on hair blogs.
Really? Forgive me but it makes me so sad to hear such defeatist attitudes especially in the light of all the other black women with different textures, all over hair blogs and YouTube finally getting long hair that they’ve never achieved before.
Some people are just determined to explain away other people’s positive results when a technique does not work for them. For instance, I’ve heard the idea that hair type dictates your length potential.
While this may be the case to some degree for type 1, type 2 and some type 3 hair textures, one could certainly argue that these textures are perhaps easier to care for so they default to longer lengths. Yet there there are hair forums full of Caucasian women with type 1 hair who struggle to grow it past their shoulders.
Ladies with type 4 hair as rule tend to need a specific hair regimen in place in order to reach longer lengths and wonderful results are regularly achieved by women ranging from curly 4a to the kinkiest of 4c hair textures.
I will also admit I was defeatist myself in the past and I was always quick to dismiss something it didn’t work for me. I dismissed the value of hair growth aids and pills because they had never worked for me and actually gave me significant problems, but I’ve seen that these products actually do work for many people who have used them for years without problems.
Shamina Boseman says
Not for me. Making sure my hair is thick and healthy is my main goal. Hair length will happen eventually. It’s not a rush for me.
Beverly TruelyBlessed Conover says
Yes,plus the healthy status of it too!!!
Andrecia Lewis says
Maybell Lena Killion says
Healthy hair is my goal and has been accomplished, length is just an added blessing!
Minding Myownbizness says
I’d like to achieve length but keeping it healthy is my main goal.
Cherisha Christman says
why do black women obsess over hair legnth?
Uglyy Betty says
Not black women. ALL WOMEN.
Cherisha Christman says
I never meant all but I do see a lot of posts about hair length, and length check I unfollowed a page on here because thatz all they talked about. I know not all because I’m not concerned about it. It grows when It grows.
Vicki Steverson says
Uglly Betty ALL women do not. There are many women happy with what the good Lord gave them 😉
Vicki Steverson says
Cherisha Christmas, I understand what you mean, it’s like their life is not complete unless they get long hair.
Cherisha Christman says
OH…and I don’t know anything about other women. I don’t hang around that many other women to know intimate details about their race.
1. Long, flowing hair is deemed an attractive aesthetic in our culture, especially for women.
2. Most in the African American community, really the whole African diaspora, have learned hair care techniques that are based on either the study of Caucasian hair, which is literally the exact opposite to typical afro textured hair, or straight up incorrect information from myths and stereotypes.
3. Employing practices that garner long Caucasian type hair, tend do destroy or drastically stunt both the growth and health of black hair, without the users of these practices understanding why.
So, most black women are confronted with image after image of “attractive,” long and flowing hair, but are perpetually unable to get it for themselves. In my humble opinion, these constitute the reasons why many, not all, black women obsess over hair length.
Shay Hammonds says
No. The healthiness of it is
Shay Hammonds says
I’m thinking if chopping mine off
Janet Ferguson says
Carrie Laura-Lee Howe says
Love her hair, she’s beautiful! Black women in general are so damn pretty! Our features really stand out dont they?!!
Adenike Matthews says
I want it ALLLL. ..thick healthy n long…
Mia Eubanks says
Nothing wrong with wanting long hair.
Carmella McCoy says
It used to be, but not at the moment. Moisture and Regular Trims are right now. Been rocking a pixie cut for a while and plan to keep rocking it. All I have to do in the mornings is fluff and go. My life is much easier now.
Imani Malika says
I want both healthy hair and length. I have the health and the length is coming (18 months post BC). I don’t think there’s a problem with wanting longer hair. Its not consuming my life but it is a goal for my hair. My hair has always grown beautifully and it continues to do so. I agree with this article when she says the naysayers are basically pessimistic in their views. I also don’t understand why one person’s goals bother some people so much. Its not your hair, move along.
I completely agree, Imani. Having hair goals is an individual choice and no one should be mocked for it. I think more people than those who mention it, have length desires too but prefer not mentioning it. There’s nothing wrong with having multiple goals.
Carolina De Jesus says
Roneisha Monae says
Since my hair is already pretty healthy, yes length is my goal now.
Tiara Kibby says
Yes it is. My 2nd biggest goal is health of my mane!
Joslyn Steelers says
No I cut too much… I just want healthy hair
Chrischell Denim-ink Smith says
I recently just had to let go the thought and effort of having long hair. All I want is thick and healthy hair, length is a reward for me lol
Deondra Davis says
I don’t look at hair length as the biggest goal, but I do consider it into my goal as I’m accomplishing whatever goal I set that year!
Anita McGriff says
Healthy, thick, then length
Kiki Rin says
nope, the longer it gets the harder i find it to deal with. routine and everything else goes out window! i like the idea but in reality i find its more work then i want
Shamecki McCoy says
It is for me. If my hair is healthy then I will accomplish my goal, if it’s not then I have to get it healthy.
Uglyy Betty says
Yes it is so what
Lasonia E Johnson says
Healthy hair and try different styles…I don’t care about hair length…to long will only cause me to cut it…
Andrea Angie Tater says
YES!!! health and length
Nataucha Gray says
No health hair is my goal.
Vicki Steverson says
Nope length does not matter.
Blessedfrom Above says
That’s my goal is thick, long & healthy…27 inches within 3 yrs
Aliyah Morrison says
Sorry but that’s unrealistic . In your first three years natural the most you can get is 18 inches that is IF your hair grows an AVERAGE OF 6 inches per year AND you have a good hair routine that works . Hair Routine and trims play a big part as well . Also this is determined by your terminal length . If your terminal length lasts 3 years then you may get 18 inched .
Erica Ann Norman says
My daughter is mixed so I liked this page in order to get pointers on how to care for her hair. In other words, I can’t speak for myself. However, as an outsider looking in I must say, I absolutely love the TWA look! I also love the natural hair. I think that more and more these days, short is in and HEALTHY is the goal 😉
Sondra Rudd says
My goal is healthy & strong hair…Ive had breast cancer and lost ALL of my hair, so just having healthy & strong hair is a real blessing for me…
Starr Jay says
At this point yes
MzLdy Sunshyne Bethea says
My hair is healthy so yes length is my goal
Cleopatra Jones Best says
hair length as well as the health and thickness is my goal. so far the longer it gets the thickness comes with it. im blessed.
Kelly Hall says
Health is first. My hair grows so slowly, so I’m not stressing about length. My hair is attractive and flexible at it’s current length, so I’m happy!
LaRita Smith says
It is annoying to read about so many wanting long hair. Reading about women taking a day to detangle or never trimming ends because they nervous about losing an inch or shedding. Please. All hair grows in phases at its own pace. Healthy hair that is well maintained will get longer but obsessing will get your nowhere.
Bernetta Nelson says
No. Healthy hair is more important. Length should be secondary.
Sonya Rice says
No long HEALTHY hair is my goal. 🙂
Sapphire T Mc Burnie says
Nothing wrong with wanting long hair but I want health and body!
Pia Shantee says
yes. yes it is.
Joyce Sims says
Why is bothering people to know that others want length? So what?! Hell yea I want health and length, that should not bother anyone! Ur hair goals are all ur own. Dont judge others because we all think differently, my God made us that way! Natural is still natural!!
Timetre Pratcher says
No I want healthy thick hair not too long but at least to my shoulders so I can have a little more options when it comes to styling If length is someone’s goal it’s their hair so good luck and post pics please 🙂
Amml Icandi says
Healthy hair..with healthy hair…the length will come. 🙂
Teea Lynn says
No my goal is thick and healthy I dont care about length.
Sharonda Gray-white says
Yes. Health and length
Felicia McKenzie says
Love her hair!
Audri Ruff says
health and proper styling is my goal …length not my first thought
Olive Skovski says
yes it is my biggest goal..length and health..
Nedgie Dorval says
Health and length is my goal
Jazmine Ladybug Gomez says
It’s my goal right now
Josie Nelson says
Its one of mine, I had long hair when I was young, thick and long, I want it back! I’m 60 now so I’m anxious to see what happens.i plan on ordering the vitamins next week!
Siboniso Ndlovu says
My goal was to embrace my natural hair after living in weaves for years but with un-cared for natural hair. I love the way my hair looks when it is scrunched down and rejoice in the shrinkage. However, since reading all these blogs I have been questioning whether my goal is the right one. Thank you for this article because it has reminded me that YES, mine is fine for me because I am loving my hair even as it grows it will still be pushed back using a hair band even if it is down my back. Priority HEALTH indeed!
Back when I had permed hair I was able to grow it to my shoulders I. I cut my hair to go natural and I’m sure I can grow it to my shoulders by next year or two years . My goal is for it to be as healthy and moisturized as possible but I want to grow my hair past my shoulders that’s another goal. 🙂 I don’t do length checks every day though . This pic right here is my hair goal.
Kelly Jamila says
biggest goal, no. A goal, yes.
Lourian Reed Johnson says
My goal is healthy hair! Health over length!
Laura Jehue Mabon says
After health, then length is my next goal. Currently getting trims every 6 weeks
I’d be lying if I didn’t say my focus isnt on length. Even though I do want longer hair I’m going to make sure it’s healthy. So even though my priorities are “backwards” Either way I’ll be getting the best of both words
Angel Park says
Long thick hair is the goal.
Hair's Robin says
Health first because some will sacrifice health for length meaning their hair will be really damaged and stringy yet they refuse to cut the damage for fear of losing length not me I’d rather rock a full healthy fro than a long stringy wrap
Wendy Jean-Louis says
As long as it is think and healthy. Besides I have had short hair for seven years now, I want a change
Shalonda Lee Hood says
Why does a person’s personal hair goal matter? And who is to say long hair shouldn’t be their goal. My goal IS long hair and in order to achieve that goal, I must first and foremost keep it healthy. They work hand in hand.
Sheron Brathwaite says
Healthy hair is my goal. Length doesn’t matter.
Missm Witdatshyt Rocker says
Healthy hair the length will come
Claire Chen says
I want it all thickness , health , and length. My hair is already thick but I want it to be thicker.
Yes I agree with health comes length. My hair is healthy and thick and it’s growing . I keep my hair braided ( no extensions ). My final hair goal will come soon . I’m not going to obsess over it. So I focus on health first then length.
Queen LeLe says
My hair is already thick and healthy so my goal is brastrap length by 2017 of next year. I am currently armpit length. Oh and I never had long hair in my life until now. My hair use to break off at my shoulders when I had a relaxer. My hair was relaxed at 4/5 years old . I achieved armpit length even though when I first big chopped 2 years ago people said I can never grow my hair long. Now I beat the odds.