The great thing about being a blogger is that I get to reach a lot of people with my opinions, as unguided as they sometimes are, and I also get to hear a lot of peoples opinions on the same subjects too.
As a result, even though my opinions remain firm in most cases, I have developed a more rounded view of hair care and even when someone disagrees with me, I am still able to see and understand their point of view.
A comment on a post in another black hair blogger’s website caught my attention recently. The commenter took offense to the fact that length was even being mentioned on the blog.
The commenter made the claim that there was a parallel between how long your hair was as a child and how long it could ultimately become as an adult. The thinking was that if your hair was long as a child then length is guaranteed as an adult and if your hair was never long then it never will be and you should just concentrate on health and ultimately that’s all we should talk about on hair blogs.
Really? Forgive me but it makes me so sad to hear such defeatist attitudes especially in the light of all the other black women with different textures, all over hair blogs and YouTube finally getting long hair that they’ve never achieved before.
Some people are just determined to explain away other people’s positive results when a technique does not work for them. For instance, I’ve heard the idea that hair type dictates your length potential.
While this may be the case to some degree for type 1, type 2 and some type 3 hair textures, one could certainly argue that these textures are perhaps easier to care for so they default to longer lengths. Yet there there are hair forums full of Caucasian women with type 1 hair who struggle to grow it past their shoulders.
Ladies with type 4 hair as rule tend to need a specific hair regimen in place in order to reach longer lengths and wonderful results are regularly achieved by women ranging from curly 4a to the kinkiest of 4c hair textures.
I will also admit I was defeatist myself in the past and I was always quick to dismiss something it didn’t work for me. I dismissed the value of hair growth aids and pills because they had never worked for me and actually gave me significant problems, but I’ve seen that these products actually do work for many people who have used them for years without problems.