Now if you were to corner me on the street and ask me point blank how to retain length in natural or relaxed hair, I would answer truthfully that It’s not that simple or It depends because different approaches work for different people or sometimes you may have to change your approach at different times to get good results.
It’s just the way it is, there simply isn’t a 1 sentence answer to that question. Now my sister, whom I can only describe as a flake when it comes to her hair (you know you are girl!) has been natural for the same amount of time as I have. I mean of course she knows the basics of how to care for her hair, regular conditioning and how to style her hair in a simple twist out but when it comes to length retention she’s lost.
Of course all the info that she needs is right here on this website but the truth is most people can’t be bothered to find out how it’s done or when they discover that it’s not as easy as ‘buy this product’, all motivation goes out the window. Also, length just isn’t that important to everyone, some of us would rather have ease and convenience.
After 3 years of natural hair my sister almost relaxed again, I mean she was literally outside the shop when she called me to talk her down. I didn’t really talk her down, I told her that if it’s really what she wanted to do then she should go ahead but I reminded her of wash days when she was relaxed and how scared she was of touching her hair because of the intense breakage.
Because of my sister’s disposition and attitude towards hair, her relaxed hair journey would be unlikely to be different the second time around. She just isn’t that interested in hair!
After mumbling something about researching texturizers, she changed her mind and decided instead to lock her hair. A year later, the locks were taken out and she is currently rocking her natural again. I told you she was a flake!
Some people are simply not built to care about hair in the same way that some of us do. And even I didn’t always care about hair until something clicked inside me a few years ago.
These are a few common reasons that ladies have given for going back to relaxers after having been natural:
► Natural hair didn’t work for them
► Their hair got matted easily
► They couldn’t comb through their hair
► They couldn’t style it
► It was too thick/coarse
► Everything took too long
Here’s a story of going back to relaxed hair by Iluvminehard: