Ladies Who Have Gone Back To Relaxed Hair After Being Natural

Now if you were to corner me on the street and ask me point blank how to retain length in natural or relaxed hair, I would answer truthfully that It’s not that simple or It depends because different approaches work for different people or sometimes you may have to change your approach at different times to get good results.

It’s just the way it is, there simply isn’t a 1 sentence answer to that question. Now my sister, whom I can only describe as a flake when it comes to her hair (you know you are girl!) has been natural for the same amount of time as I have. I mean of course she knows the basics of how to care for her hair, regular conditioning and how to style her hair in a simple twist out but when it comes to length retention she’s lost.

Of course all the info that she needs is right here on this website but the truth is most people can’t be bothered to find out how it’s done or when they discover that it’s not as easy as ‘buy this product’, all motivation goes out the window. Also, length just isn’t that important to everyone, some of us would rather have ease and convenience.

After 3 years of natural hair my sister almost relaxed again, I mean she was literally outside the shop when she called me to talk her down. I didn’t really talk her down, I told her that if it’s really what she wanted to do then she should go ahead but I reminded her of wash days when she was relaxed and how scared she was of touching her hair because of the intense breakage.

Because of my sister’s disposition and attitude towards hair, her relaxed hair journey would be unlikely to be different the second time around. She just isn’t that interested in hair!

After mumbling something about researching texturizers, she changed her mind and decided instead to lock her hair. A year later, the locks were taken out and she is currently rocking her natural again. I told you she was a flake!

Some people are simply not built to care about hair in the same way that some of us do. And even I didn’t always care about hair until something clicked inside me a few years ago.


These are a few common reasons that ladies have given for going back to relaxers after having been natural:

► Natural hair didn’t work for them

► Their hair got matted easily

► They couldn’t comb through their hair

► They couldn’t style it

► It was too thick/coarse

► Everything took too long

Here’s a story of going back to relaxed hair by Iluvminehard:

Another natural to relaxed story on the following page

About Alma Ruddock


I’m Alma Ruddock, the founder and editor-in-chief of Blackhairinformation.com. I stumbled on a hair care forum back in 2008 frustrated with my breaking relaxed hair and the information that I found there changed the fate of my hair, and quite possibly my life, forever! I immediately started to transition to natural hair and started BlackHairInformation.com as a way to help both myself and other women of color achieve their dreams of long healthy hair. I have now achieved my goal length and I continue to help others achieve their dreams too. My three passions are hair, art and entrepreneurship and I love to be able to bring my unique view on hair growth and successful hair journeys to our readers. I am an eternal optimist and workaholic. In addition to BHI I have founded quite a few other websites and businesses including Elongtress Hair Vitamins and Urban Gyal which all fall under the umbrella of my company Coils Media Ltd.

About Alma Ruddock


I’m Alma Ruddock, the founder and editor-in-chief of Blackhairinformation.com. I stumbled on a hair care forum back in 2008 frustrated with my breaking relaxed hair and the information that I found there changed the fate of my hair, and quite possibly my life, forever! I immediately started to transition to natural hair and started BlackHairInformation.com as a way to help both myself and other women of color achieve their dreams of long healthy hair. I have now achieved my goal length and I continue to help others achieve their dreams too. My three passions are hair, art and entrepreneurship and I love to be able to bring my unique view on hair growth and successful hair journeys to our readers. I am an eternal optimist and workaholic. In addition to BHI I have founded quite a few other websites and businesses including Elongtress Hair Vitamins and Urban Gyal which all fall under the umbrella of my company Coils Media Ltd.

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Elizabeth Jenkins

Looks very healthy!

Naomi Summage

Still very pretty hair

Stacie Hart

where can I buy coconut oil for my hair?

Charmel A. Bennett-Bloodsaw

I have foound coconut oil in TJ Maxx

Jamillah Davis

TJ Maxx by the packaged food, trader joes, regular grocery stores, whole foods, health food stores, amazon.com.

Shasha
Shasha

Trader Joes and Whole Foods have the best selection. I have been using it on my relazed hair for ages.

Stacie Hart

Thanks Guys!!!

Ashley Marie Jeannine Harris

Any place that sells regular cooking oils. It’s usually next to the olive oil. It’s solid so it will be in a different container

Stacie Hart

Do I have to melt it first to put it in my hair?

Jamillah Davis

No. Use it like regular hair oil.

fruitbowlk
fruitbowlk

ebay, grocery store.

Shotti Dabodii

I Dont see the point in it tho

Erica Renice

Any hair store…

Heaven's Angel

Beautiful hair.

Lisa Merdynes

I thought about it.

Danaya Paige

That bottom pic tho…. lol

Endenezjia Graham

Do whatever makes you happy!!

Rae Florexil

Oh.the many times.i have thought about going back lol but im staying strong

Tori Austin

I never will. Stacie Hart You can get coconut oil at any grocery store… I use the organic vegan coconut oil….love it, its only like 4.99 for a nice size jar.

Stacie Hart

Thanks Tori

Ilsis E. Pozo

Hard work for nothing…smh
But it’s their hair. So they can do whatever they want with it, no matter how pointless it seems

Nykema K. Jones

Stacie Hart, buy it from the supermarket. It should be in the baking aisle. The coconut oil in the beauty supply store isn’t real.

MiSonia Moore

I’m not. I love my natural curls. They’re so versatile

Janelle Williams

I did that too bk to the creamy crack lol I can’t manage my hair when its natural

Charmel A. Bennett-Bloodsaw

my hair is the same either way. elaxers do not straihten my hair so I do not bother with them. The point is your hair; do what you want.

Tonia Ta-Ta Ragland

Not me thats for sure!!!

TreVaughn Monet

I know of two natural who did it

Andrea Bryant

Relaxer isn’t just about your hair its about your over all health it causes fibroid fumed and can lead to cancer

Jenny JackJack

So does tooth paste, deodorant, and car fumes….get over it! If you’re living on Earth, then you will die of something.

Renotta Brown

Im about too. Natural is gettin’ on my nerves. Im to busy for it.

Deionna Luvin'Lyfe Young

me too. i did it and its too much trying to maintain moisture and find products that define my curls. im going back to relaxers myself

Zariea5

Just wanted to say even if you go back to relaxed hair because you feel you couldn’t find the right moisturizers you will have the same problem with relaxed hair….hair is hair it needs the same either way so I hope you have great success relaxed as well….

Nanou Jones Fcrt

0/100000

Sondra Rudd

if being natural makes u happy go for it…If being relaxed makes u happy go for it…Js….

Lynd Saay

Being natural is better 😀 but indeed, we choose what it make us happy !

Jamillah Davis

I’ve thought about It, but I aint got time for no “creamy crack”, breaking off my hair!:)

Tasheen Lockridqe

I just did it…
And man, do I miss being natural!! But hey it’s just hair…

Shawndrea Rachelle
Shawndrea Rachelle

How do you feel now?

Felicia Inmyhappyspacedonotdisturb Captain

It’s tempting

Chelesan Chel Njiva

I don’t think it’s a good idea

Markeitha MikaylaMae'sMommie Walker

Natural hair is just as difficult to maintain, but both can be healthy if properly treated

Raquel Thomas

I think it largely depends on individual hair texture. Relaxed hair, for me, was more difficult. I can wear my wash-and-go for days. That’s just me. I don’t knock anyone.

Uri-el Charles

Any1 asked them why

Ashley Campfield

Thought about it but… Then I just straighten it and feel much better 🙂

Shes A'libra

I gt a relaxer las wk

Angela Richardson

I TRIED IT FOR THREE MONTHS BUT GAVE UP AND PUT A PERM BACK IN, ITS SO LONG NOW CAN’T DO NOTHING WITH IT SO I KEEP IT BRAIDED UP IN UPDO’S

Хенли Янукович

Sad stories

Sherrie QueensMind Jenkins

I feel if we was meant to have straight hair we would of been born that way, when u change what God ordained u r saying God made a mistake, n Gods best isn’t good enough, because u r created different smh

Tk Tatum Richey

God ddnt create weave god didn’t create perm he didn’t create makeup or razors but I bet you shave wat your saying is ludicrous

Jamillah Davis

He didn’t make us with pierced ears either. Ur sooooo right, Tk!!!

Vee Smith

exactly ladies. i hate when ppl bring god into this convo just because we dont make the same choice as them. that is very self rightous.

Chan
Chan

Then maybe you should walk around naked, After all, you WERE born that way…

Felicia E Gibbs Okorie

I have ezcema so bad that i can use a relaxer ever again. I wish i could.

D'Marie Landry

Trader Joe’s Stacie Hart

Cerbie Lamarre

Ohh noo, never again for me!!

Shirley Scoggins

I’m trying to hang in with the natural girls but it’s hard.

andrea55
andrea55

I know what you mean. I was relaxed for years and my hair would grow and break. I have been natural for three years and my hair is still doing the same thing. I have heat damage from a salon visit and I have cut most of it off. I now have to start all over again.

Natasha Hector Richardson

Don’t blame them natural hair is freaking hard work.

Andrea Bryant

U sound angry jenny I’m only stating a fact what anyone chose to do with the info its up to them.life is about choices and we do have free will.

Danita Coleman-Jamerson

Love my hair natural, love my hair relaxed. Big chop either way doesn’t bother me any more than hanging past my shoulders… It’s about what “I” like. I just don’t see the rational in negative OPINIONS regarding what others do with their own hair…even if I buy some.

Chan
Chan

PREACH!

Shantel Clemons

I love my relaxed hair.

Caridad Suarez

I looove it

Geneva Neva C Caldwell

I MUST ADMIT I SURE THINK ABOUT IT SOMETIMES

Imani Malika

When I went natural, I always said that if I don’t like it I can always go back to relaxers. I gave myself an out. Its been 17 months now and I haven’t considered going back. My hair is much more time consuming now but I feel like it is what it is. I went from a Caesar fade to collarbone length and I don’t want all that work to be for nothing lol. But if others feel the need to return to relaxers, I’m not going to judge.

Alisha Waxter

Different strokes for different folks

Stacey Elise Gray

It’s all about personal choice for those going back it was a fad, they jumped on the wagon & decided to jump back off. It’s a lot of hype surrounding “natural hair” & everybody ain’t equipped to handle it. I say do whatever makes you happy, you won’t know til you try it right?

Alisha Marie Berry

Andrea Bryant there’s a lot we do to out bodies that’s not healthy to others etc Everything we eat or take in in this day in time is not healthy again its a preference to be natural or relaxed etc to each there own

Alisha Marie Berry

#our

Tamika Moody

Having Natural hair is no easy thing…Just because we came into the world naked doesn’t mean we all want to walk around like that every day….Im natural but I do have my moments

Toni Sims

Lol some ppl take hair too seriously. I can’t straighten my hair chemically or with a flat iron because I wasn’t born with straight hair? A woman born with straight hair can’t put curls in cause she wasn’t born that way? It seems like we’re the only race that does this to one another.

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