Everyone has that one thing that drives them? The thing to live by or the thing that keeps us going on a journey. It isn’t often that we talk about the thought process behind going natural or the psychology that drives the notion of being natural. In one of my natural hair groups today one of the lovely admins posed the question “What has your natural hair taught you about yourself?”
The answers to that question were pretty inspiring. Some of them I could identify with and much of it got me thinking that being natural has put many things into perspective for many of us.
We have redefined our beauty standards, let go old habits and old ways of thinking. We have gained more patience, and more appreciation for our hair and ourselves.
We are in tune with the concept of self love which might have been a priority even before we went natural but might be slightly different now. Many of us have developed mantra’s that we just never had before.
I read a blog post that had a list of natural hair mantra’s a few of which I will share with you, when you read them decide which one is yours or if you have another one please do not hesitate to share it below.
1. All hair is good hair
I have always loved this one because I was used to hearing that my hair was ‘good hair’ in comparison to another person, or my hair was not as great as someone else’s.
When I went natural and discovered the variety of curl patterns on my own head as well as on the heads of many of my friends and colleagues there is no doubt in my mind that ALL hair is ‘good hair’. There are no ranks, what we have is diversity at its best and it keeps things interesting to say the least.
2. With health comes length
Where have you seen that before? That is our motto and mantra here on BHI because it is a proven fact, if you focus on the health of your hair, growth will come. You have to change your focus and turn off the “long hair desperation” thoughts that plague your mind.
If your hair is healthy it will have so much more than length, it will have shine, body, softness, bounce all of which are just as important as long hair.
3. What works for one head may not work for mine
THIS! This is everything for those of us who find ourselves jumping on every single bandwagon known to man. If you have a routine that works for you and you are meeting your goals, why try to ‘fix’ it when it isn’t broken? We need to be able to admire a process, and appreciate someone else’s progress without comparing it to what we do and what our hair looks like.
Once you have the confidence that your routine is working you can truly appreciate what another person is doing without envy or without doubting yourself.