Some Caribbean nationals choose to sport locs either as a symbol of their religion and in recent times, as a stylish do. For years Rastafarians were regarded with disdain; nasty people who did not want to comb or wash their hair.
You did not dare turn up for an interview with locs. In fact, dreds or locs started becoming popular when Europeans started to express some liking for it. In essence, we still continue to subscribe to the European view of what looks good and what is acceptable.
Many of the oldsters grade the quality of your natural hair and this in turn is believed to have implications for dating, social status and professional life, so the pressure to have good hair starts at the early stages of childhood.
Schools have summoned parents to school only to be asked not to allow children to wear Bantu knots, deemed an inappropriate style for school or professional forums . For this reason getting a straight relaxer at twelve is like a rite of passage, since the picture of beautiful, delicate femininity is smooth straight hair.
It is as though you are still a baby and not taken quite seriously if you don’t get a perm, so many girls get one to signify that they are all grown-up. In fact, some parents do not even wait until age twelve, since many children start the first grade with a relaxer.
It is so rooted in our mentality that wooly or coily hair is inferior or signifies a lower class that many a mother has told her son not to bring any “dry head gal” home to introduce as a potential girlfriend.
So deep rooted is this thought that some young girls who do not have loose curl patterns will often try to snatch a guy with the “nice hair”; one of an Indian, Asian or a Caucasian descent.The purpose of this really is to ensure that their children inherit some “good hair.”
Some girls actually fear that they will not attract the right type of mate if they do not get a relaxer and in this case, for many, the right mate has some waves, curls or straight hair and if he is of light complexion you have hit the jackpot because naturally, such a guy would come from a “good breed”.
Originally posted 2013-09-20 15:00:35.