I’m So Much More Natural Than You! – A Protective Styling Debate

Nicki Minaj on Elle

By Emily Of EmilyCottonTop

I saw this comment on a post this week :

I do not, however, feel that someone that always wore weaves relaxed, then transitions, big chops, never shows their natural hair during the entire journey unless it’s to do a length check on YouTube or to get their weave changed, then continues to wear weaves non-stop is truly protective styling. That person is buffered from the full experience of being a natural and want it that way, in my opinion.

And I thought well that’s interesting, excuse me while I interrupt your divine experience!

I always thought protective styling was protecting your hair in a certain style to preserve it from over manipulation. I never knew that if you did it 90% of the time, then it becomes less protective than if you did it say 40% of the time. – is that what she is really insinuating?

If you wear your hair out all the time, are you more of an experienced natural than the girl who is ACTUALLY natural just like you but wears a weave all the time? What is the full experience of being natural? is it the same for everyone ? How do you really know what she has been through by just looking at her $200.00 ‘Brazilian hair down to there’?


Wigs and Weaves are a Personal Choice …

Here is my opinion, I agree, I think weaves and wigs are a personal choice, I don’t particularly care for them but if I did I wouldn’t mind trying it a couple times a year. I do not however look at a woman who wears a wig and say ‘I am more natural, or I have more experience than her when it comes to natural hair’ because she chooses to wear a wig all the time.

Weaves and Wigs, Protect the Hair (when done right) ..That’s just what they do…

I do think wearing a weave or a wig is protective styling there is no way around that. Whether you did it when you were relaxed, transitioning, natural, 50% of the time 90% of the time, or even 100% of the time, it is what it is.

Our society is based so much on symbolism and judgement that sometimes something as practical as wearing a wig becomes some high indication of unnaturalness (depending on how long you do it for). Natural hair is a physical thing, caring for natural hair is physical experience. How you feel about your natural hair, now that! That is emotional! That means it is not black or white, there is always gray area, and it can easily be debated and judged.

I cannot with good sense look at a woman who wears a weave and automatically assume she hates her hair, it could mean that she loves her hair so much she prefers to preserve it in a way that might not be conventional to the average joe. There is no way to tell unless you invite her out to a red couch somewhere and hand her a glass of wine.

The whole thing about ‘if you do this, then you are that’, or ‘if you do more of this then that means this’ and ‘you are more of that’ … can be so annoying…

Em

Ps – The point of the Nicki Minaj Pic, in case you are wondering :

1.  Nicki gets alot of flack for showing her natural hair but never her face, and she predominately wears wigs or weaves or something to that effect

2. That Pic was bossy! – Elle Magazine did the damn thing and she looked so much more ‘natural’

3.  She looks great out of costume and we don’t get to see that often, so.. WTH

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About Alma Ruddock


I’m Alma Ruddock, the founder and editor-in-chief of Blackhairinformation.com. I stumbled on a hair care forum back in 2008 frustrated with my breaking relaxed hair and the information that I found there changed the fate of my hair, and quite possibly my life, forever! I immediately started to transition to natural hair and started BlackHairInformation.com as a way to help both myself and other women of color achieve their dreams of long healthy hair. I have now achieved my goal length and I continue to help others achieve their dreams too. My three passions are hair, art and entrepreneurship and I love to be able to bring my unique view on hair growth and successful hair journeys to our readers. I am an eternal optimist and workaholic. In addition to BHI I have founded quite a few other websites and businesses including Elongtress Hair Vitamins and Urban Gyal which all fall under the umbrella of my company Coils Media Ltd.

About Alma Ruddock


I’m Alma Ruddock, the founder and editor-in-chief of Blackhairinformation.com. I stumbled on a hair care forum back in 2008 frustrated with my breaking relaxed hair and the information that I found there changed the fate of my hair, and quite possibly my life, forever! I immediately started to transition to natural hair and started BlackHairInformation.com as a way to help both myself and other women of color achieve their dreams of long healthy hair. I have now achieved my goal length and I continue to help others achieve their dreams too. My three passions are hair, art and entrepreneurship and I love to be able to bring my unique view on hair growth and successful hair journeys to our readers. I am an eternal optimist and workaholic. In addition to BHI I have founded quite a few other websites and businesses including Elongtress Hair Vitamins and Urban Gyal which all fall under the umbrella of my company Coils Media Ltd.

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You know I feel that yes wigs and braids and sew in’s are good for protecting. But I feel that when you are always wearing them then you have a problem with your natural hair, And how you look with natural hair. I have never been a fan of fake hair but I do understand it. Just make sure that you are not doing it to look like a certain type of women that’s all. One more thing I don’t get that if you have stopped relaxing and you are saying that you have gone natural (because of the curls ) then why get silky sew in ? I get the braids but I don’t get the sew ins that’s all. Why not get curly sew in’s for the more natural look?

Amber Starr

I want that shirt!

Celeste Jackman

thank you for this article. peole who act the fool for how someone chooses to wear their hair is ridiculous

Cheryl McIntosh Smith

This is a fantastic article!!!!

Toy Washington

Wearing a wig/weave is a protective style also.the prob is most girls that wear weave all the time don’t deep condition,use a treatment or cut their ends.they just take it out and put the weave back in.most of them have length but it’s real thin

toots
toots

WRONG i wear wigs and weaves and I oil my scalp every other night deep con and all that jazz my hair is longer than most who wear it out everyday u know why because less manipulation and stress on my treses so all weavey wonders arent careless is a lifestyle babe

Tashi Harris

I want tht shirt, do they have it in black…..

MzLdy Sunshyne Bethea

If you find it let me know!

Coco Barnes

Your baby!! Hunter Cooksey

Stefany Young

LOVE THAT LOOK!!! BAM!!

MzLdy Sunshyne Bethea

Funny thing about so many people going natrual, most are doing it for the wrong reason. You can have healthy hair no matter if it’s natrual or relaxed. Weaves,wigs,braids, plats, and pony tails are all protective styling that no one knew was protection until the big “lets go natrual fad” came with “the Bad hair movie”.

I live in Florida, natrual for 3 years however fake hair has and always will be my friend because the heat down here is brutal on my hair. Fake hair just makes it’s easier and my real hair is growing faster by not being touched. Reality if I did more to it by now it would be to my waist. But 3 years BSL isn’t bad considering what I don’t do

Darling Dayanna Crisanto Funez

I choose to wear sew-in weave ♥

Brittany Whitehead

Stop hatin’ and debating!’

Sue Brooks

Where can we find that shirt she is wearing?

Sue Brooks

Found it! It’s not a shirt. It’s a bathing suit. Printed face bathing suit by Jeremy Scott for addidas. It is $95.

James Striverson

Another side of her !

Jamera RayAnne Holland

This foolishness needs to stop. Do what you want with your hair and love yourself.

Anita Wilfong

This would not be an issue if we encouraged each other instead of judging each other. No one’s journey is better than another. The emotional stuggle is real for ALL of us.

Tawanda Lck

Why worry about what someone else is doing with their hair? Mind your business.

Elle Anna

Since when is it a contest ?? Like really …