3. Unrealistic expectations
I never really thought much about the infamous statement, “Girl, you got that GOOD hair” before I returned natural. In the natural hair community there are caste systems where we like to label our hair textures along the lines of ‘good texture’ – aka the desired less kinky* texture with uniformed or ultra defined curls – or the ‘bad texture’ full of tight kinks and coils.
If you don’t love your natural texture and you are torn and just on the brink of slapping a relaxer back on… give yourself some time to research, learn, experiment, and figure out how best to embrace YOUR texture. A lot of the time we desire something we have no experience with or have limited knowledge about.
I always say unrealistic expectations will set you up for failure. My suggestion to you would be to get to know your very own texture of hair and learn to develop over time the right expectations about your texture.
4. My very own tailored texture of natural hair
I love how unique my hair is and I proudly love the challenge of attempting to figure out what works best my for my hair and what doesn’t.
I would strongly recommend if you are a natural and you are having trouble learning to make your texture work best for you then experiment with different products, regimes and techniques.
A lot of the time we may be missing just a small piece to the puzzle. Let’s take this time to reprogram, learn, grow, and share our experiences during our natural hair journey because no two journeys are the same!
5. My hair isn’t poor quality (BAD) or what I desired (GOOD)!
I know it may be an intimidating adventure to return natural on top of being reintroduced to a new texture you aren’t even sure you have but it’s also fun & rewarding too.
I discovered while getting better acquainted with my natural texture of hair. Despite what others may think, it wasn’t designed poorly but that doesn’t mean it was without it’s challenges; the truth is I didn’t even have a clue about what natural texture I desired. I am so glad I came to that realization as I have truly been able to enjoy my texture and wear it confidently.
In the end I am proud to say I have neither GOOD nor BAD hair; rather, I have the hair I was uniquely designed with and for me that is what makes it beautiful.