Attention! New Hair Method!

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I was recently surfing the web and decided to check in on some of my favorite hair sites and bloggers. They are all saved in my “favorites” folder in my web browser. So I took a sip of tea, and dug into my seat.

I was excited because I’ve been under the weather for a while and I hadn’t been online in almost 3 weeks! Sooo….. I pop open my favorites tab and click on…..



Which one? It struck me as I looked at my folder that there were 14 -yes, 14-  sites saved in  my folder.  Now I love to learn new things, but I must admit that there were quite a few of them that I did not look at much anymore for various reasons. One of the main reasons may be that there is just too much info out there right now.

Too much, you ask? I’m crazy, you say?

Allow me to explain.  I got my first relaxer at 7. I big chopped at 18. I got a texturizer at 18. I mini big chopped at 19. I got a press and curl at 25. I big chopped again at 27. And almost 2  years later, I no longer use heat, and my hair is about shoulder length. I only trim when absolutely necessary.

So I have used a lot a various methods in the past 10 years. My hair has never had a problem retaining length, because I know that no matter what, my hair needs moisture and simplicity to stay happy.

However, I have tried to change it up a bit, using different methods that I have found on my beloved hair sites, but my regimen always comes back to basics.

Am I disappointed that these other methods don’t work for me? Do I get discouraged that after I try a method, my hair doesn’t look like my favorite bloggers? Am I doing something wrong?

The answer to all of these is no. My hair is thriving because I know what works for her and I stick to it.  But I DID come up with a brand new hair care method that everyone (you too, relaxed beauties!) can use.  It is……

(Drumroll, please)

The Grain Of Salt Method 

Seriously.  Here are the rules, ahem, suggestions  (I hate rules, ugh):

Originally posted 2012-07-15 19:00:39.

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About Ashes

I am a 28 year old wife, daughter and friend. I have been natural for almost 10 years, heat free for 6 months. I have recently started my own blog and would like to write for other blogs and sites as well. I love everything about hair and makeup and fashion, as I believe that those are powerful ways to express oneself. I very strongly believe that people should be themselves, no pretenses. I love to talk to different people and hear different viewpoints, because there IS room for everyone.

About Ashes

I am a 28 year old wife, daughter and friend. I have been natural for almost 10 years, heat free for 6 months. I have recently started my own blog and would like to write for other blogs and sites as well. I love everything about hair and makeup and fashion, as I believe that those are powerful ways to express oneself. I very strongly believe that people should be themselves, no pretenses. I love to talk to different people and hear different viewpoints, because there IS room for everyone.


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Alx Edg

GHE overnight is just PLAIN crazy and unhealthy. Why would anyone opt to give themselves head colds, conjunctivitis (pink eye), pneumonia, headache,acne,etc…just to have soft hair??

Vicki Steverson

How do you get those symptoms from GHE?

Alx Edg

It’s actually very simple. Drawing heat upwards to your head overwhelms the nerves,etc,thus headache. Have/would you go to bed with your head damp if you got wet in the rain? The oils /conditioners used in GHE get runny after a while add to that sweat, this accumulates on the face,neck = clogged pores/rash,acne. Also around the eye-sockets/lids = pink eye/ infection .Not to mention hair fungus, especially living in different climates…and the list goes on….

Tawanda Boone-Shuford

I have done the GHE for years (off/on) and have never had any of these disease or symptoms. The only way I’m getting some of these disease is through a virus, bacteria, or fungus and having a damp head does not necessarily cause that. The microbe has to be there as well as a portal of entry…lol.


I have not heard of any of those symptoms either. The only thing my sister, a licensed beautician, told me was that the salt from the sweat can somehow (don’t quite recall the exact words), damage my hair. I stopped doing it for a long time and started back again. Now that I have learned how to steam my hair without a steamer, I do that and get the same results of softer, yet healthy hair.

Miriam Correa

All of them .

Delphine Barnhill

I love the look !! 🙂

Tynesha R. Crawford

Establishing a “regimen”…meh. I don’t have energy for that. My hair tells me what it needs.

Jaime Nicole

Lol using monistat for hair growth.


HA!!!! I tried that (smh) and got such a headache!!!!! Did my hair grow? Yes, because I got rid of a fungus growing at that time. Just go to a dermatologist… LOL

Candace Wilson

Spray your hair with water to moisturize it and something about Shea butter and also the acv rinse wth?

Shawnetta Jones

Don’t comb, dye, or straighten or it’s not natural…Chile please. I mostly ignore the natural nazi comments/advice. Yeah Jaime Nicole that monistat one too and alot of the fly by night use everything leftover from dinner last night ones.

Caramel Kimmie


Emma Louise Kornegay


Nyokabbz Mamake Ian

bahahaha loL. I know what you mean tho.

Evette Howard

That u have to cut your ends every six weeks….. u dont have to do that *****

Carol Edmonds

Alx Edg i beg to differ i dont know what all you apply to your hair but you dont need all that product for ghe just a small amount of oil no liquids are needed,your scalp will generate the steam..I’ve been doing ghe for over a year and never had any of

Alx Edg

Well that’s good for you, may not be for others. Instinctively ppl think the more product they put in their hair and the longer (over nighting) it is left in the better. Thus someone with crazy thick/long/ dry hair will not ‘adhere’ to using the amount/s you say you use.Funny enough,what ppl are calling GHE, Caribbean women have been doing for AGES. So the renaming of ol’ time remedies in itself is HILARIOUS to me ;as I risk venturing to say, most Island women.

Jamie Carter-Bailey

That relaxed hair can’t be healthy


That’s what two of my sisters said when I told them I was going back to relaxers. As of today, they are wrong, my hair is longer now than it was when I was natural for three years. So, WHATEVER! 8-p

Jamie Carter-Bailey

I do the GHE with JBCO oil on the v first day and no oil the rest of the week (because JBCO ls heavy) and I have no acne etc matter of fact I just castor oil as a night moisturizer and coconut oil in the morning and my skin has never looked better

Porsche Mccray

I’ve been doin the GHE system for two weeks and havent haf any problems.

Jaime Nicole

90% of all this advice isn’t necessary. It doesn’t have to be so complicated. I’ve been natural since 2000 and alot of this new stuff is baffling to me.

Shante Willnevasettle

Natural is the way to go! Been there done that…not for me. And no its not.

Dabney Ross Jones

Using baking soda and vinegar.

Marla Robinson

I m sad my hair medium break n I want my hair long I like need my hair long n. How grow up hair long what kind need hair grow long list name ?

Valerie Johnson

That I shouldn’t wash my hair daily…even men have told me this…

Shawnetta Jones

Valerie Johnson I never bought into that one either. My hair responds well to frequent washing. The key here is do what works for you but it doesn’t have to be so complicated.

Jerae Farries

That I shouldn’t use a lot of products. A little goes a long way.

Rosalyn Barney

Trimming your hair every two weeks to make it grow faster

Nicole Cato

Sealing my moisturizer with oil.

Natasha Manick Rhone

Dabney Ross Jones… the Baking soda in your shampoo is the bomb for clarifying! & the ACV (vinegar) rinse. I love both…

Tammie Faulkner Taylor

Weaves are damaging.

Akilah Smith

That if you color your hair you’re not natural smh I still have my curl pattern and kinks no damage. Also using sulfate shampoos are bad. My hair loves sulfate for some odd reason and it bugs me when people say “You must use ALL natural products” that’s bogus. I say USE what works for YOUR OWN hair. If it ain’t broke don’t fix it. I honestly still use some of the same products I was using during my relaxed days and it works perfectly. The LOC method screwed my hair so I’m going back to my normal moisturizing treatment

Jessica Kight

Finger detangle

Marie Jonson

To never comb your hair just use your fingers and to not use shampoo, just wet hair and let it air dry and that water is my friend. Please, if I only wet this hair and not comb it I will end up with one big mat of hair. This stuff is extra kinky and I need my shampoo and water is not my friend. It takes me what seems like forever to comb through my hair.

Frankye Campbell

True everyone is different, everything is not for everybody!!!!

Jeaneen Alise

any growth advice…. meh.. it’s gonna do what it wants

Jeaneen Alise

anti-shrinkage advice as well… my goal isn’t length.. it’s health… I don’t care if it shrinks

Andrea Simpson-Jones

I take Co-washing with a grain of salt. I ALWAYS shampoo my hair, in one setting, three times. First I use a clarifying shampoo, then I use my Design Essentials Organic Cleanse, then my last shampoo is a moisturizing shampoo with either Design Essentials Moisture Retention Shampoo or Beautiful Textures Tangle Taming shampoo. Because of the process I use, it is imperative that I cleanse my hair thoroughly before my conditioning routine which involves a mixture of Affirm Fiberguard Reconstructor and olive oil.

Doris Morrison

having a regiemn. i put what i think works and see how it goes.

Trulisa Johnson-Mcbride

You have to use all these different types of natural hair products for natural hair. Back in the day we use regular shampoo/conditioner & grease. Our hair was just fine.

Trulisa Johnson-Mcbride

What is GHE?

Dipak Kumar Mishra

love u..byyyy…


With allllll these new finagle ways to care for hair, I am learning to use and do what works best for me as the writer said. As many of you have already stated, do what’s best for you because only you know what will and won’t work for your hair. If you want to try it then do, if not, then don’t. If you seek advice, be prepared for numerous responses and choose which ever one fits the pocket book best is my response.

Theresa Marie Bryant

Tea rinses, cayenne pepper for hair growth, onion for hair growth, the inversion method, etc. If my hair is doing fine with the products and techniques im already using I see no need to try every new trend. I try not to be too obsessed with my hair

Maybell Lena Killion

Hmmm. Great info, but I’m overwhelmed already.