It has been proven that obese people face prejudices and discrimination (see this article from the NY Times) so appearances DO matter. If your hair looks “bad” it can indeed have a significant influence over your life. And bad can be defined in whichever way you choose, but the point is (in my opinion) its NOT just hair.
Now, that being said…I do think if we are basing our decisions for our hair on the fact that we do or do not have a man, then something is wrong. Everything I do with my hair, I do for me first. I do believe that a man’s opinion should be considered, I’ll never jump up with my neck swivelling and fingers snapping talking about “He can’t say nuffin about MY hurr. Its on my head, he ain’t growing it so his opinion don’t matter! *two snaps*” No, no – not this lady!
I desire a man who has an opinion about my hair and takes interest in it. After all…I’m doing all of this work to grow it so of course I want my significant other to at least care about how it looks. But, to not be able to do what I want to do with my hair because of the relationship in which I am involved is absurd! And to claim this to be a happy reason for being single is even more strange to me.
To take this claim one step further and assert that a change in my hairstyle may attract a different type of man (and in this case ‘different’ infers ‘better’) is plain ludicrous. To be real, it reminds me of overweight, unhappy women who lose weight but are still unhappy. They wonder why their lives haven’t changed miraculously with their new “improved” bodies, but have the same mindset.
Now, I am going to be a little cliche here but change comes from within, and you must be happy with yourself before you can even begin to consider the type of man you may attract or date. I mean it may not be just hair, but it doesn’t do all of that without the personality and inner confidence to match.