You are now held responsible for what you say in the public eye regardless of who you are and what you do behind closed doors. With that said, if your opinion is that Heidi Klum is crazy for keeping her children’s afro textured hair then my opinion is that I am glad she is their mother and you aren’t! No joke!
Ouch! Hurt right?
Media including social media can be your best friend and your worst enemy all in one hour. Sheryl needs to understand that there is a line, we do not joke about issues like rape, make fun of inspiring historical figures, make negative comparisons with our colleagues in an effort to put down significant aspects of ourselves even if it’s just about hair.
If you choose to publicly humiliate someone else or forms of expression that people are generally proud of why not expect that people would have something to say to you about it, even if it was just a joke.
Now I am no prude, I love to laugh and I might make a joke or two myself, I won’t pretend that behind closed doors there aren’t things I have said that might be considered disparaging.
For example my cousin called me the other day and asked me if I would write a paper for her, I was so shocked at her request I blurted out ‘Bitch ain’t nobody got time for that, you don’t have any kids, write your own [insert expletive here] paper’ . We both laughed!
Do I think she is a bitch in the real sense of the word? No! Does she know that? Yes! Does she understand what I was saying in the context of which I said it? Yes! Is it right? No!
If I was in the office running around making jokes and calling all my female co-workers bitches and hoes it probably wouldn’t go down so well. The point is comedy can touch any subject if you let it, but as responsible adults we cannot allow it to touch everything and we cannot allow it to touch certain things in certain settings.
Sheryl backslid, she made a joke thinking she was at the club and not on national TV with blended families watching, and women who love there textured hair, and men who love their women with textured hair and people who just might take offense to her ‘joke’.
You see it doesn’t matter if it was a joke or not, what matters is the context in which it was said and who was listening at the time. It also matters that you are on a platform that expects more of you; they expect you to be candid, expressive, funny and respectful all at the same time.
Sheryl has since said she is sorry that she offended anyone but that she is not sorry for what she said. Maybe it is just me, but doesn’t the offense come with the insult? I am thinking no one would have been offended if your mouth was closed at the time.
Weigh in, what do you think about Sheryl Underwood’s comments?
Tea says
What the heck was Sheryl thinking??? First off, she is not even funny in my opinion. I do not know why she would make these awful and disparaging remarks. It sounds a lot like self hatred to me. I am sure the real hair she is sporting under those ridiculous wigs is coarse and afro like just like a lot of people of color and soooo what!!! Was this said for laughs?? She could have found a better way. Her being a comedian doesn’t give her license to say bull s like this. Think lady. You were not funny but damned foolish for sure. Love yourself and your hair. Try wearing it. I think anything would be better than those wiggy wigs. You’re knocking afro hair but sporting those insane and most unbecoming wrecks on your head. They do not add to your looks at all. Try your own, it MIGHT add a lil something.
amber says
cheryl is definitely self hating. I’ve seen her perform before and she definitely has issues being a dark skinned African American female and just be glad in general. I definitely think it was inappropriate for the audience but I definitely think a lot of black people think that too, especially older black people. I could see my mother laughing at that joke. All the women on her side of family have criticized and haggled me for my natural hair. when I started transitioning they said that my husband would run for the hills if he has to deal with all that nappy stress , my husband is not black, fyi. Another one of thier reasonings. We’re still married by the way lol. That attitude is rampant in our community and needs to really be addressed. So I think it’s kind of unfair to blame and shame Cheryl for having an opinion that a lot of black people have. I’d rather her to keep making a certain sector of the black community laugh and have an internal change in her peception of her blackness than simply make a meaningless public apology and maintain her beliefs. she seems like a deeply sad an insecure person and I will pray for her to find happiness and peace with her reflection in the mirror.
Pb Kanes says
BLACK WOMEN NEED MORE SELF-ESTEEM…
Kersha Beaver says
I sometimes wonder bout her. She doesn’t seem to embrace her blackness.
DivasWorkingitout MotivatedTogether says
I don’t know how she can’t embrace it, she’s blacker than 12midnight.
Tanisha Folk says
She hates herself clearly.
Dee I'ma Braidartist says
Well we know her hair aint real! Moving on….
Nicole Lane Marie says
Just….look at her face. It screams special
Dachele PerfectlyImperfect Parham-Alston says
She’s talking about herself. Self hate is so ugly
Dee J. Chancellor says
She’s tacky and always has been.
DivasWorkingitout MotivatedTogether says
I guess her mirror is broken! Snatch that wig and make up off!!!#lovinmykinkycurlynaturalhairanddarkchocolateskin #nofilterallnatural
Micaelle Lovemyshoes says
Self hatred….. Hope the old dog can be taught, love your self
Riff Spencer says
I think Heidi is smart–natural hair is becoming more popular, I definitely can see women rocking more natural looking weaves
Krisha DeShawn says
What can you expect from a woman that wears wigs daily? Annnnnnd, it was a joke. I joke about my natural hair all the time, but its what God gave me so I have no problems wearing my natural hair.
Thick Nette says
While I don’t agree it’s her right to feel any way she wants about her hair. We have so many more important issues to worry about in our black culture that hair should be the least of our worries! I wish people felt as strong about black on black crime as they do about hair!
Shanae Monique says
I felt some kind of way about this. Especially as a person who just started transitioning a few months ago. But it didn’t make me wanna change my mind about growing out my natural beautiful hair. I feel like what she said was ignorant and made her look ridiculously stupid because she herself is of African American descent. Then says she’s sorry for offending people but not sorry for what she said. Girl u can keep that apology then.
Andrea Johnson says
She wears wig anyway so not surprise what a joke at blk people expense.
Curdelia Brown Franklin says
Gums
Wanda Durant says
Well my take everyone has there own thoughts it doesn’t go for every one..I also keep my son’s hair & don’t cut my girls split ends my children aren’t mixed nut have beautiful hair..I embrace all hair types.. after all she only wear wigs so to each its own
Corie Jay says
I’m confused by her comment because she’s pulled her wig off before to reveal what is under there. So if she’s truly ashamed of her natural hair would she have done that? Idk, I find ppl do and say things believing one has nothing to do with the other.
Rebecca Tribeca Akrofie says
mmm, I’m, pretty sure this story is elderly. Though I complete disagree with what she said. She can be happy wearing her hair pieces, but there’s no need to criticise others.
Margaret Goodman Edwards says
Self-hate attempting to be covered up by her inappropriate humor.
Pamela Henderson says
I understand that she is well educated with Masters Degrees etc. How can anyone tell? Sometimes one’s ignorance hides one’s intelligence. Better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.
Kabreisha Smith says
All them gums
Malakah Angellia Gladston says
Aaaaaaaaand….she’s FUGLY as hell
Sachiko Lingard-barrett says
This is coming from a woman who looks like a monkey. Moving on….
Sandra Harris-Holloway says
Lol… Opinions. Everybody has one, even idiots and @zzholes. She got exactly what she wanted..attention / hype / ratings. Don’t be mad. Sista trying to get paid by any means necessary. At the end of the day she has to be happy with herself.
Kie ProudMommy Tate says
hmph idk about her, maybe she was in the moment
Maybell Lena Killion says
She was trying to get a laugh and she did it the wrong way. But y’all, we really need to let it go, look at Sheryl’s gums, just let her make it!!!
Charlene Jeffers says
Some of these insults are not any better either. Black as midnight, monkey, old dog. Wow. And no I’m not agreeing with what she said either.
Raven Marie says
She’s probably endured some skin bullying as a child causing her to feel that way. It’s so sad, but she acted an ass.
Allyson Parker says
I dont like what she said either but more importantly why are SISTERS saying she looks like a monkey. Come on ladies. Black is beautiful and degrading her isnt helping us as BLACK WOMEN.
Azalea Cannie Alexander says
She sounded like “Ruckus” from the show ” Boondooks”…
Sheryl Creary-smith says
Wow .
Sonya Rice says
I don’t agree at all with what she said but it is her right as an individual to feel that way. Plus we already know whats under those wigs.lol
Raven Marie says
Just tweeted her….didn’t know it’s an old episode, doesn’t change what she said even though she issued an apology. Sad.
Tayshann Creary says
Obviously her comments were made based off of her own insecurities about her hair. Not all black people feel that way. Black hair in beautiful. We have so many different shades of black and brown, different lengths, mixtures of curl patterns, densities and the abilities to do endless things with our natural hair. So please believe, we do embrace and “save our afro’s”.
Vanice Mattews says
each person has the right to their opinions ….
Victoria Mackie says
People are too sensitive. Its not like what she said, the opinion of one person you don’t even know, will change the value of your child’s fro hair and if it does than you need to do some assessment. If you laughed at the JOKE, great, if you didn’t like it, that’s fine too. Just move on.
Ebony Holmes says
What an idiot
Shannon ByAny Means says
Sheryl Underwood is unattractive, so you have to imagine all the insecurities she grew up with and obviously still has. The assumption that all fros are nappy is ridiculous too.
IlikeDonald Trumps'Combover says
I hate when people say “it’s just a joke” when black women and their hair are ALWAYS the butt of every joke, the shit gets old and it’s not just a joke any more.
Carla Briggs says
Love my hair natural or with a weave..its how God made me beautiful
Danielle DanDan Ross says
Not saying what she said was right but funny some of yall are calling her ignorant or that she doesn’t embrace her blackness yet yall insult her looks by pointing out how “black” she is, she looks like a monkey or her gums…lol smh the same things “European beauty standards” would could consider unattractive right? Doesn’t sound like yall truly embrace “blackness” either lol. Grow up and get a clue!!
Bernice P Nash says
I think she mad a distasteful joke. Shes a comedian what do u expect??? She is not aware of her own hair and her opinion is as such. Before I ditched the chemicals I thought my hair was “nappy” ignorance is bliss. I love my curls and maybe one day she will love hers
Earline Hall-Billingsley says
She is a hot mess
Kimberly Champion says
im still stuck on the whole saving hair thing…
Daiquiri A. Holland says
Dude who cares, this story is super old. Not only that, this came out the mouth of a chick who look like Wesley Snipes in the face lol
Nona Lori Brown Amoruso says
I don’t think people should call her names. She apologized. Now when white people say monkey or whatever people get upset. #notkool
Delores Dyane Carter Bernard says
Wow!! Keep the self-depreciation for people of Color going!!!! Wow!!
Merri Beth Rich says
Look at her.. With her wig on … Lol…This isn’t the first stupid thing she’s said, won’t be the last,
Astairwaytolearning Wherewehelp Familiesgrow says
I feel the natural hair community is very sensitive to these comments. I say to each it’s own. It was a joke, but some truth was in it. I have coarse hair and I own that. I would never want to a salon or beauty store to get that look. Just my opinion.
Gwen says
As a soror, I am appalled. You obviously forget what being a “Sister” means…and just for fun…if you were to remove your wig, weave or whatever, what would we find…???? I’m just saying…