Don’t Be Ashamed To Admit To A Silkener

 Miko-and-Titi-BranchHere are our thoughts:

1. How you care for your hair is your right – At the end of the day what you do with your hair is entirely up to you, if you think using a silkener will make your life easier and give you your desired look then go for it.

If you are an all natural sistah and you want nothing to do with chemicals then a silkener might not be for you.

2. Do you still have natural hair if you have a silkener – No, natural hair is hair that is not chemically altered, that is our rule of thumb, so the hair that is growing from your root is natural, the rest is chemically altered. Somehow as human beings we like to belong to a group or box, so we are forced to try to fit in and this causes a few technical arguments that are sometimes way too unnecessary.

If you have a silkener, say so, if you have a relaxer, say that too. To be honest this whole movement is a lot about hair, but its more about sisterhood and healthy hair.

3. Does using a silkener mean you hate your natural texture – That is a matter of opinion and something you should ask yourself why you are doing it. It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks the only thing that matters is what you think.

Some women are not phased by the whole being wholeheartedly natural thing, some women see their hair as an accessory and treat it like that. That means, they might color it, wear a weave, get a texturizer, get a hair cut, wear a wig, go bald, they have fun without the biases, interpretations or even anyone else’s opinion.

Now that we are at the point in the movement where we have explored all aspects of natural hair, we have had fun, had parties and most of all learned how our hair works it is time for us to come to terms with all levels of acceptance.

This means not everyone is going to have hair like yours or even ‘do’ there hair like you do. If you sell products be completely honest about your product and process so that the entire community can make an informed decision and be ok with it.

Phew, that was a mouthful, in other news did you hear that Miss Jessie is partnering with weave company Indique for a summer campaign? We cant wait to see what they come up with and how this can revolutionize protective styling if at all possible. We say good luck!

Would you use a silkner? Speak your truth below.

Originally posted 2014-05-26 15:00:45.

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Hi I'm Petra Lomax , a staff writer and editor for . I am Jamaican born and raised and moved to the United States in my early 20's. I have a BA in Political Science and International relations as well as an MBA and a Masters In Project Management. I love travel, culture and anything that has to do with creative media and business.

About Petra

Hi I'm Petra Lomax , a staff writer and editor for . I am Jamaican born and raised and moved to the United States in my early 20's. I have a BA in Political Science and International relations as well as an MBA and a Masters In Project Management. I love travel, culture and anything that has to do with creative media and business.


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Erica Kelly

So funny. Me and the lady with the light hair have the same hair!

Tamika Lametra Webster-Clarke

It’s basically a texturizer?

Yes it’s Miss Jessie’s version of a texturizer, which Titi, the one with the hair color in the pic, uses herself to loosen her texture.

Candi Ballard-Zolicoffer

What is a silkerner

Shayla Y'israel

No because my hair will no longer be natural

Maya Woodall

Never heard of tht

Marilyn Rmsb

It’s the same thing as if you were using that texterizer it’s all still perm like.

Kai McIver

It sounds like “silkner” is a fancy word for texturizer lol. Do what you are comfortable with on your hair. Chemicals stunt my hair growth, so I opt out. But I don’t have a problem with someone else doing it…more power to you.

Essence Wilcox


Cee Turner

they both have beautiful hair.

Artrice Barker

Maybe if it would look like theirs.

Donna Chesser

If you do you won’t be natural!


Telling people not to be ashamed that they use a “silkener” but refuse to call it what it is… a mild relaxer. LOL

No one should feel ashamed of what they prefer to do to their own hair. Calling the process silkening or texturising is just a way for people to pretend they are not relaxing their hair. It’s just hair! Be proud to rock it anyway you want to.

Thick Nette

I am seriously considering this if I’m ever going to wear my hair out. It dosent cooperate with braid outs, twist outs or wash and goes. It just frizzes up like a poodle. I want that look without all the time consuming prep work! I don’t have that kind of time. Weaves and braids are my constants!

Lucia Yassin

Never! Then my hair would no longer be natural and chemical free. Just because it doesn’t completely straighten the hair like a relaxer, doesn’t mean it’s not the same thing. It’s still altering your natural texture.


Maybe if I had short hair, but my hair is long so NO I would not risk using a “silkener”!!!

Theresa Marie Bryant

Not if it changes my texture permanently

Lasilia Imnottheonenottoday Thornton

nope i wouldnt. i like learning my own texture.

Vee Hx
Vee Hx

If you use a chemical process in your hair, you cannot claim to be natural, because you are not natural. I didn’t even know such a thing existed!

jane harlow
jane harlow

I was considering straigtening my hair with coppola keratin straigtening treatment. would you recommend. Can you give me details about the treatment


it’s funny how people try to give a product another name. It’s not a Silkener, it’s a Perm. Call it for what it is and stopping telling those who actually believe it only makes the hair silky. You need to do the same thing with a perm as a “silkener”. Get real. You are no longer Natural, but you are back to using permanent products-IT’S A PERM.

Maybell Lena Killion


Kaily Jeter

Nope, I love my 4a-4c texture the way it is.

Michelle Nesbeth

Absolutely NOT!!!!

Tomeka Justice


Rhonda Rhonda Rhonda

What is a silkner?

Cb Sampson

lye like in a relaxer just not as much same difference new name

Tina Waters

A relaxer or perm as some say.

Chanèl Renee

What is a silkener ?

Tina Waters

A relaxer.

Chanèl Renee

Oh . okay , thanks. Then I definitely don’t want one !,

Denise Niecy Thompson


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Cb Sampson

Not putting lye on my scalp just because you call it a silkener its still lye a relaxer in other words

Jamila Kelly

guys actually read the article before asking what a silkener is

Dabney Ross Jones

Thank you! Ugh!

Angel Park

I usually never do. I don’t like to click links because some give viruses .

Jamila Kelly

it’s a link to her page though idk how you’d get a virus ^^;

Megan M. Mercy

Nope nah nah uh nawwwwwwww no

Alicia Williams


Dabney Ross Jones

No, but my mom who has extremely coily hair might benefit from it.

Tina Waters

A silkener is simply a relaxer. If you chose to get your hair relaxed so be it. However there’s no point in you being involved in a “natural hair movement”. If you’re going to be encouraging black women to accept their natural texture you can’t have a relaxer yourself.
It may help you manage your hair better but that’s just what relaxers do.

Krista Kinchen

Isn’t this just a relaxer????

Krista Kinchen

So in other words, people are faking being natural, that’s disappointing,kinda like “passing”

Lynn Maupins

I love my nappy! Lol

Deanna Merritt Ross

Nah. I’m good.

Sivon Lockhart

Who cares? It’s your hair, do whatever you want with it.

Courtney Gray

We care thats why we are talking about it. And “do what u want with your hair” how about looking at both sides before u make a decision. Thats what we r doing

Stephie Smith

I’ll keep my kinks thank you very much…. this is still adding synthetic chemicals into my natural hair and thats a no no!!

Jennifer Walker

Silkeners are made from lye…just like some relaxers…hmmmm..i think not

Mel Roberts

Look this is very simple!. You either go all natural and put up with the combing and pain. OR put a little chemical on the hair which is better known as RELAXER. You can call it any fancy name but as soon as you place anything PERMANENT that changes the hair texture it’s called RELAXER. It is what it is!!

Mel Roberts

I love all hair.

Cynthia Williams Butler

Hell no

Lauren Ralph


Courtney Davis

Nope. Defeats the p purpose

Andrea Treasure

What’s the sense using a silkner…u wouldn’t be a natural any more. My hair is as kinky as it gets. For the past couple of months of daily moisturizing, it’s as soft as can be.
Using a silkner…might as well put a relaxer in your hair and call it a day!

Andrea Treasure

I don’t even use edge gels. Kinda weird having kinky hair with straight edges. I’ve learned to embrace my beady beads!

JoAnn Morton

I personally would take an Intense Moisturizing technique. Leaveing chemicals that permanetly rearrange the curl pattern ALONE.

Exquisite Douglas

I did it a couple times then cut it all off and grew back natural.. it’s currently texturized.