The Day My Mother Finally Accepted My Natural Hair

black mom and daughterIt’s been a long road but I feel like my mother has finally accepted my natural hair.

Just to give a little background, she was never very approving of my decision. She originally thought it was just a phase but after realizing that I was actually sticking to it, my mom was the major source of opposition towards it. I regularly received comments that my hair looked a mess or unkempt.

It really got under my skin for a while but then I shook it off and overcame it. I didn’t need her acceptance of my decision to grow my strands freely the way God designed them to do so.

Months passed and it wasn’t until she came to visit me in my new apartment last month that I realized her opinion of my hair changed.

She stepped out the car and I welcomed her with opened arms as she stepped back and said “ohh your hair looks nice!” Those four simple words were enough to put an instant smile on my face and a slight look of unbelief.

We then talked about my new styling methods and she told me she loves how my curls have flourished but didn’t fail to mention that they’ve come a long way.

After her visit she even showed photos to her coworkers who then complimented my hair as well and subscribed to my YouTube channel where I share my natural hair journey and tips and tricks I have learned along the way.


I never told her how much her acceptance means to me but it meant a great deal. Although I didn’t “need” her acceptance,  that admission was enough to make me feel like I’m doing something right.

I would be lying if I said that I didn’t value her opinion so I could have easily given up on my journey a long time ago but I didn’t. I found beauty within myself and kept going and I’m so glad I did.

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About Vanessa


Hi! I'm Vanessa! I'm a 26 year old natural. Making the decision to go natural has been one of the greatest decisions in my life. It has boosted my self confidence and has given me a way to express myself through the hair God has blessed me with. I had my last relaxer in Dec of 2013 and big chopped Aug of 2014 and there's no turning back! I now share my journey with tutorials and tips that work for me through my youtube platform and my blog in hopes of helping other naturalistas in their journey to natural.

About Vanessa


Hi! I'm Vanessa! I'm a 26 year old natural. Making the decision to go natural has been one of the greatest decisions in my life. It has boosted my self confidence and has given me a way to express myself through the hair God has blessed me with. I had my last relaxer in Dec of 2013 and big chopped Aug of 2014 and there's no turning back! I now share my journey with tutorials and tips that work for me through my youtube platform and my blog in hopes of helping other naturalistas in their journey to natural.

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LaMesha

My mom has always been accepting of my natural hair and I’m sure I took that for granted. So happy for you. Great post.

Fine Brown Frame

Why is there an option to not accept someone elses hair choice..I get the same negativity from naturals online regarding my relaxed hair. .smh..

Michelle Jackson
Michelle Jackson

My mom wasn’t accepting initially and told me I needed to go perm my hair (& she’s a 50’s baby)!! That was 2009, in 2015 she has returned to natural!!

Reava Bennett
Reava Bennett

Praying for the day that this happens for me. *Crosses fingers*