We have all been there. You are on a hair site, and you like it. You like the articles and you like the comments that people leave, and you have even gotten some good ideas and info. So naturally, if you find that you have a question, you think that going into the forums would be good. You either find a question already in the forum or you post an new one. Either way, you may be going about your beautiful business, when BAM! there it is. A mean comment.
This has happened to me a few times, on different sites. I find that there is a comment on my comment, so I go to take a look. Of course, I am excited, as anything about hair or clothes or makeup fascinates me. Most of the time, the feedback is great, but other times….hmm. Here are a few gems I vividly remember:
“I’m sure you couldn’t pull that hairstyle off, it’s too cute”
“That was a dumb thing to say”
“I bet you don’t have a life, cause I see your comments all the time”
“You’re ugly, and gross, why are you here? Boo Hoo your hair is nappy”- (keep in mind this is on a forum page where we are all faceless, no pics)
I must admit that when I first read some of the mean comments I would look around my empty room, incredulous, like the comments were surely not aimed at me. There must have been some mistake, they must be talking to the imaginary person in my kitchen? Then I would be like, “O-Kay! You wanna take it there?! Let’s take it there!” Then of course I would think of some amazingly brilliant comeback, precisely worded, and then-
No Response. Because it would dawn on me that a) this person is probably a troll or b) they are the ones with no life, and are to be pitied, and c) I do not go to forums to fight with strangers. I go there to communicate like a mature adult and to share information.
Yes, beauties, it is far too easy to get caught up cyber-arguing with a computer screen. Because unless these people have Skype, that’s what I would be doing, isn’t it? This is not to say that there cannot be disagreements, but if the interaction takes a wrong turn, I stop typing. I move on. My time and energy is valuable. Why should I, or anyone else with common sense and courtesy, waste either one on a person who goes out of their way to be negative, petty, or downright hateful? Really, are these the people you want to interact with? Do you want to give them precious minutes of your life? You could use that time reading positive articles or something, or laughing at funny cat pictures on Google. (That last one is me, sorry)
So, the moral of this is that meanies on the forums only want to get you riled up. They do not want to help you. They are bored, and their day is going crappy, so they want to make your day crappy too. Do not give them the satisfaction. You really can’t win an argument with a forum meanie, so why bother? Never let anyone steal your joy. And that applies to more than forums.
Do you reply to mean people in the forums? Why or why not?
Tiffany L'Tonya says
Ignore them. … Some ppl just HAVE to say something, want to be seen, or have low self esteem and choose to insult others from behind a screen. Smh.
FunSizee Rima says
Ignore them or respectfully inform them of their ignorance 🙂 but dnt keep going back at it let them look childish
Veronda Thomas says
Andrea Angie Tater says
I no longer want to see the word NAPPY instead I want to see Empress Coiled because we are REGAL and PROUD of it anymore positive adjectives is welcomed pay it forward.
Olive Ahamzie says
Reply if they even worth it!
Erica Yancey says
I Love lookn at da Styles n tips U give, I Jus recently went Natural bcuz I was tired of putn perms n my hair so I say ignore the Negative comments cuz ppl will Always have sumn 2 say Reguardless of wht it is, Keep up da Good work
Drelay Dobson says
I say ignore them and keep it moving. It’s not worth the time it takes to type a response. #getalife
Corinna Dunn says
Don’t. They are simply looking to be relevant.
Tonya Jspratt says
Well if you do they delete and block
Wendy Stewart says
Why do we treat each other so poorly? Then we wonder why others treat us bad as a race? We must uplift each other, there is enough negativism out there…ignore the negative!
Micole Spicer says
I agree! Ignore them! The site is about uplifting black women.
Terreka Chandler says
Don’t respond, just delete them!!!
Georgiana Gray says
Hide, delete and ignore their comments.
Andrea Simpson-Jones says
It depends. Some people take other’s honest opinions as put downs when they are just stating their own observation and then some people get mad because you don’t agree with them. It is all in how you look at the comments. Someone not agreeing with you is not them necessarily being mean or negative. It is just THEIR truth and THEIR reality.
Annalisa Thompson says
Always say u didn’t have to finish reading the comment u can always fast forward
Lasilia Imnottheonenottoday Thornton says
they are obviously unhappy with themselves. so allow them to throw their tantrum and look foolish. you can address them directly , or ignore them altogether. no amount of talking or reasoning will fix their ignorance.