Lets settle this once and for all. I do not know how many of you ladies watch Real Housewives of Atlanta but for those of you who do, I know you have heard about that whole situation where Todd Tucker had the nerve to say that one of the things that is causing marital problems between himself and Kandi is the fact that she wears a hair bonnet.
Yes girl. Todd had the nerve to mention the bonnet! Check out the conversation:
Todd: “Let’s be real. I’m not Tyson Beckford and you’re not Rihanna. When’s the last time you didn’t have the bonnet on and you put some heels on?”
Kandi: “I had the bonnet on my hair before we got married and it was not a problem.”
Todd: “If I say the bonnet doesn’t turn me on, you gotta be like ‘You know what well maybe I don’t need the bonnet on.’ Like, you have to compromise.”
Alright I get it; we all like when our men express themselves and if your husband says the bonnet is a problem we cannot complain, because we always ask them to ‘say’ what is bothering them.
Kandi addressed the bonnet thing again this week since that whole situation was filmed maybe a year ago. When she was asked if she was surprised Todd went in on the bonnet she responded with the following:
No, I wasn’t surprised. He’s always talking crap about my bonnet. That’s nothing new. We’re coming to a compromise about the bonnet. I’ll just put it on after he’s asleep.”
Here is my thing: dudes kill me with this because at the end of the day you fall in love with a woman for her everyday normal, not for the fantasy of the woman in the kitchen making dinner with 6 inch heels on, red lip stick and just an apron.
Real women have kids, a home to clean up, hair to maintain for a business meeting the next day. Our feet hurt, we live for the moment we can take it all off and put our hair up and just be comfortable.
Sometimes I feel like men have unrealistic expectations of women but are happy giving us their every day ‘real’ at the bat of an eye. Where is my six pack, massages, roses, romance, 50 Shades of Grey all day every day, at? (While you steady crying over a bonnet).
At the same time, I am all for a great compromise, so I am glad Kandi was able to settle things. Here is the thing though, it’s never about the bonnet; it is always deeper than that. I refuse to believe it is that serious. Weigh in: do you think hair bonnets should be a deal breaker in your relationships?