Lets settle this once and for all. I do not know how many of you ladies watch Real Housewives of Atlanta but for those of you who do, I know you have heard about that whole situation where Todd Tucker had the nerve to say that one of the things that is causing marital problems between himself and Kandi is the fact that she wears a hair bonnet.
Yes girl. Todd had the nerve to mention the bonnet! Check out the conversation:
Todd: “Let’s be real. I’m not Tyson Beckford and you’re not Rihanna. When’s the last time you didn’t have the bonnet on and you put some heels on?”
Kandi: “I had the bonnet on my hair before we got married and it was not a problem.”
Todd: “If I say the bonnet doesn’t turn me on, you gotta be like ‘You know what well maybe I don’t need the bonnet on.’ Like, you have to compromise.”
Alright I get it; we all like when our men express themselves and if your husband says the bonnet is a problem we cannot complain, because we always ask them to ‘say’ what is bothering them.
Kandi addressed the bonnet thing again this week since that whole situation was filmed maybe a year ago. When she was asked if she was surprised Todd went in on the bonnet she responded with the following:
No, I wasn’t surprised. He’s always talking crap about my bonnet. That’s nothing new. We’re coming to a compromise about the bonnet. I’ll just put it on after he’s asleep.”
Here is my thing: dudes kill me with this because at the end of the day you fall in love with a woman for her everyday normal, not for the fantasy of the woman in the kitchen making dinner with 6 inch heels on, red lip stick and just an apron.
Real women have kids, a home to clean up, hair to maintain for a business meeting the next day. Our feet hurt, we live for the moment we can take it all off and put our hair up and just be comfortable.
Sometimes I feel like men have unrealistic expectations of women but are happy giving us their every day ‘real’ at the bat of an eye. Where is my six pack, massages, roses, romance, 50 Shades of Grey all day every day, at? (While you steady crying over a bonnet).
At the same time, I am all for a great compromise, so I am glad Kandi was able to settle things. Here is the thing though, it’s never about the bonnet; it is always deeper than that. I refuse to believe it is that serious. Weigh in: do you think hair bonnets should be a deal breaker in your relationships?
He’s immature, her bonnet shouldn’t matter. I’d wear my bonnett.
It shouldn’t be, I wear my bonnet to bed and it doesn’t stop my hubby from getting some of my goodies, he gonna get it anyway.
Me too! My bonnet doesn’t stop my husband at all!
Exactly, I’ve been married for 14 years, go to bed with my bonnet/scarf on my head and my husband understands that I want my hair looking neat when I go to work or we go out on dates or family functions.
Mee to lol…he ain’t loyal that Todd
Mee to lol…he ain’t loyal that Todd
LOL right on!
I don’t see the problem. Put mine on when ever I like!!!!!
…that’s stupid
I fart in the bed with him and don’t care. I’m not going to be embarrassed about something I have to do. Bonnets in bed? Hell. If I’m not going out, my bonnet is on my head all the time.
Hahaaaa me too
No shame in my game
Whahahaha me 2!!!!!!
This is dumb. I had an ex manager who said it was lazy to wear rollers to bed, well your husband must curl your hair in the morning or pay a stylist to come fix it. Then men be so quick to say they don’t like wigs and weaves. Its like what do you want? The hair to do and upkeep itself?
Word!!!
Exactly or you want her hair damaged because she’s not protecting it at night
I’m hip…. Unless he is paying for a personal stylist he needs to get over it….
Well when I don’t have anymore edges and damaged hair we’ll see how you like me then
Preach! Most men don’t understand beauty is a process.. NOBODY wakes up flawless.
Funny that they say that, but they drool at these celebrities with fake breast, butts, hair, nose, eyelashes, eyelids and cheeks.
rofl this is kinda funny XD nah..I DO usually wait awhile into the relationship before I wrap my hair to bed though 😛
… then again, that makes sense considering I don’t just sleep with guys first night.
But my bf is used to it where as he just didn’t understand why at first. I love educating a not black guy
My bf is Chinese and he can care less about my bonnet. It is all good. 🙂
‘Couldn’t’….care less
No he still love me if my hair all over my head
The desperation for a man is real. This is down right foolishness.
You said it!
Ikr
right
Doing that does not mean she is desperate dnt b dumb
It is desperate, desperate af don’t be an idiot.
Not desperate it’s called compromise
So he can’t compromise her sleeping with a bonnet on ? I can see walking around with. I can only imagine what he sys to her about other things.
Why’s a hair bonnet a big deal? It’s not even her hair in the first place!
I can understand when it’s about to go down, but other than that
This is not the movies–where we go to bed all made up and wake up all made up–hair and make up on point–Not!
That’s stupid. Point blank period.
Thats petty.
Lol some men dont like bonnets. Not that big a deal. A happy partner is a happy home
It shouldn’t b how petty smh
He don’t love her…who gives a hoot…Candi is beautiful…he just not that into U
Not true he just don’t wanna go to sleep with a woman looking like Grandma Mabel lol
i Didn’t think he was all that into her either
If I love you I love you regardless
SMH
Todd needs to stop she wore her bonnet before marriage. I lost respect for him when he told her she’s no Rhinna. She is beautiful. Get it together Todd like she said “He’s no Idris”.
I agree totally with you Yolanda. This is nothing new for him, his true colors are now showing.
I knew they would (his true colors)
Looks like mama Joyce was right. Even though she went about it all wrong she was still right.
He hasn’t gotten there yet..just give him a little more time.
ReRe wish she was Kandi. Short aas Todd.
O gosh smh
Wonder how long that will last trying to wait until her hubby is asleep before she put on a bonnet! # REALLY????
My husband doesn’t care about my hair being wrapped up…. It’s not my bonnet he wants….. Todd needs to grow up….
Hell no
Wow, if guys like him have these unreal expectations of us women then okay. I want you to tell me I’m pretty everyday, roses, luxury car, six-figure salary and to look like Idris Elba or Robert James Collier from Downton Abbey… This dude looks and sounds as ignorant as Kanye! Does he really love her? smh…
NO HE DON’T
IT’S ABOUT DAT $$$$$
NO!!
Omg Kandi you shouldn’t have to do that who would of thought something this simple would be a topic of discussion when it comes relationships relationships are hard enough without having to worry about if whether or not to wear your bonnet around your husband so sad
I have bonnets in all colors!!!
Stupid! Should have never married him! Mark my words!
Of its the NightLife Hair Wrap…no worries involved.
http://Www.nightlifehairwrap.com
Tht is stupid
Unless the man wants me to wake up with dried out hair looking like a mess then he needs to accept the scarf/bonnet. I am not a white woman..so the headwrap stays lol
What she fail to will realize is it not about a bonnets. He just says it is. Smh
Exactly
Todd is petty! He should be lucky he pulled Kandi in the first place
Nope my hubby could care less. In that case don’t wear one.period. I only wear them when I have my fake hair in.
I don’t like him. Seems to me he’s looking for a reason. What does it matter if she wears a bonnet he’s sleep!! He’s not looking at her. His lids are closed, damn! Lol It’s not like she out in public with. He’s ignorant.
Not mine! My hubby doesn’t care. Lol
They both look like they nervous af
He should care about the health of her hair and not about the bonnet. Some men just don’t get it.
He acted “down low” saying that he couldn’t get “it” up because of the bonnet.
If i trippin over a bonnet
What’s going to happen when you get pregnant
What’s going to happen when u get old and your skin looses elasticity
What’s going to happen when u gain or loose too much weight
Smh… society really has changed…
N am only 19 i hope my future husband loves me for me who ever he is
Exactly, don’t be in a serious relationship with any man who does not except you as you are. Way too much pressure to try to be someone you’re not just to please a man.
Omg you said it sista
miss lady you need help yes….that is so silly.
That’s crazy because my man loves my bonnet on sleeping and during sex…get too hot he rips it off lol…her man got issues
She should ask herself does this so called husband loves her? If you have a man that you can be yourself and be a mess around and still be loved, what’s the point of having one?
I do d same, just want him to take n my sexy to d end, lol
Bye girl bye!!
This is some bull. If he thinks you are going to look like a porn star every time you make love he had better come to bed looking the same. Marriage, love and sex is bigger than all of this.
Todd just doesn’t care for Kandi like that if he did she could wear a viking helmut to bed and he’d say that’s cute bae.
Lol
I was hoping for the best for their marriage, still do. I just dont like him anymore.
I agree! He can’t be into her if a bonnet is getting so much of a concern .
How can you be worth millions but discount your own self worth? Why should you have to stay awake until he falls asleep just to protect your hair? You need to protect your heart first. I still admire your work ethic though.
More than likely she is the one who has to get up in the morning to earn the money cuz if I’m not mistaken Tood ain’t got no job! Such a shame.
He is just ready to divorce and collect spousal support. I use to feel sorry for him the way her mother treated him now I’m starting to think she was right after all.
I stopped watching it but my niece said the exact same thing
Lmao
God forbid someone gets cancer n loses their hair to chemo . Whats a husband to do? Run?
Whahaha exactly
The 2nd time my boyfriend now Husband, who’s white, saw me, I was wearing my satin scarf around my head with my robe on…life isn’t always pretty, that’s her husband, he’s never seen her in her bonnet before they got married? He should of made sure he can handle her at her worst before getting married smh
Todd is so FOS…using that bonnet as an excuse oh please
That’s dumb.
So if he pulls an “all nighter” I guess she’s not putting that bonnet on?
So if he pulls an “all nighter” I guess she’s not putting that bonnet on?
So if he pulls an “all nighter” I guess she’s not putting that bonnet on?
So if he pulls an “all nighter” I guess she’s not putting that bonnet on?
So if he pulls an “all nighter” I guess she’s not putting that bonnet on?
So if he pulls an “all nighter” I guess she’s not putting that bonnet on?
So if he pulls an “all nighter” I guess she’s not putting that bonnet on?
So if he pulls an “all nighter” I guess she’s not putting that bonnet on?
So if he pulls an “all nighter” I guess she’s not putting that bonnet on?
So if he pulls an “all nighter” I guess she’s not putting that bonnet on?
So if he pulls an “all nighter” I guess she’s not putting that bonnet on?
So if he pulls an “all nighter” I guess she’s not putting that bonnet on?
So if he pulls an “all nighter” I guess she’s not putting that bonnet on?
Straight pettiness if you ask me!
Kmft she a damn fool. Ain’t they married or whatever smfh relationships are soo superficial these days.
A real black man knows the importance of the “bonnet” or scarf!!!
Only morons worry about stupid things like that
He married her to take care of him and his kid. Mama Joyce is right on this one. He’s not right for Kandi
Look black woman wrap our hair up at night..its just what it is..get over it..sheshhhh
Not ALL black women wrap the hair at night. I think it just depends on the type of HAIRSTYLE you’re trying to preserve. If you WANT to, you could just WRAP your hair with bobby pins and lie down on a satin pillow case. Or you can just do like me, BRUSH your hair straight back; then twist it into a chignon and push a large bobby pin at nape of neck to hold it off face and just go to sleep. I don’t like to just take a scarf off my head and head out the door. I do like styling my hair each and every day. Because I don’t wear the same style every day. And I DON’T like hairstyles that are STIFF and DON’T move an inch even if the strongest wind blew by! LOL! That’s just me! I like my hair to be free and blow in the wind! Just saying. Everyone is so different.
Still at some point with some style we wear our heads wrapped for protection of our hair…Mines is wrapped everynight,because I am natural with long hair and i like to retain my moisture..the man i have been with for 14 years,says that head wrap is the least of his worries,…why because no head wrap determines if i am looking good to him at the moment or not..he said that thats just plain silly and I agree…somethings just ain’t that deep..
Well, I don’t prep my hair at night because I’m lazy, but I don’t think my husband could be deterred by a head wrap or bonnet. If the lights are off, does it matter.
She burnt lol
Girl boo bye lol u should be comfortable enough hunny.. No wonder they are going to counseling sessions smh
Give her another year from now, she’ll be wearing a bonnet.
Just use satin pillows
That’s just sad. I never would have thought she’d be so pathetic. I run around with my hair wrapped, gorgeous or wild as fudge and my husband tells me I’m beautiful and he loves me.
He should love her no matter what.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong in a guy wanting that image 24/7 and it’s an individual’s right to play into that if she wants to. For me I bought a silk pillow case and I include him my regime so he respects the bonnet. lol though he hates the Velcro wrap
Pure foolishness… He needs to grow up .. He’s behaving boyish
it doesn’t matter cause it doesn’t stay on my head anyway.
Hell if he can’t see me with my bonnet why in the hell is he with me. Love me thru my flaws and all or not at all
That’s a pitiful excuse to blame the bonnet!
Todd aint a real blk man…. and kandi need to get it together
Well he ant a real husband
Really ladies…. clearly the bonnet should not and does not DEFINE your inner/outer beauty. If a bonnet makes him feel some way then you got problems. Get over it and heck I need my bonnet!!
It is not that serious! Love me as I am or leave me. It is way too much to worry about in life than what I’m wearing to bed. Soon he’ll be telling her to wear make-up and dress up around the house. Too much pressure…
I wear a bonnet or scarf, he wears a sleeping cap or scarf. We both have hair. We are both going to bed. No one cares. That shouldn’t even be a deal breaker for anybody its silly.
I wonder why he’s being so petty. Hmmmm.
Wait a minute!!!!! I’m not real sure but is that all K’s hair?? I thought maybe most if it was weave, if not than a bonnet IS needed so her hair don’t break off. Men will NEVER understand why we do what we do with our hair. If it was all weave, than it would be a different story…..ijs
My husband doesn’t care how I look. He doesn’t pressure me to look like anything different.
Am suspecting u Todd, I don’t think bonnet is d problem. Something is not right.
Am suspecting u Todd, I don’t think bonnet is d problem. Something is not right.
Am suspecting u Todd, I don’t think bonnet is d problem. Something is not right.
My ex used to say – wrap it up – I pay for it! lol
That’s crazy. He’s your husband. What’s gonna happen when everything starts sagging? Todd is making her insecure.
My husband thinks Im beautiful with my night cap or without it.He understand the purpose and loves me no matter what…Love all of me or None of me.
Oh please almost every woman wears a bonnet
Even beyonce and riri
Why put it on at all. I would not worry bout my hair when you can fix it in the Morning!
That’s not right sis, she said that she wore it before they were married, but now it’s a big problem to him. I almost believe momma Joyce. Todd is full of it, now that they’re married, it’s an issue……smh
Hell no!! Because if he truly loves you.. he’ll accept hair bonnets, glasses, acne cream or whatever you come to bed in. If he doesn’t, then leave his shallow @ss!! It sholl don’t stop my husband from calling me beautiful and rubbing up on me (wink wink)
Whatever it takes Kandi
If this is the only thing he can complain about, he creating chaos so he can find a way out, either he’s bored or tired. If you wore a bonnet before marriage and he knew it and still said I Do, then the bonnet isn’t the real issue.
If it’s a new guy, I don’t wear it. But if we’ve been dating and than I’m putting it on, just not infront of him lol
Todd needs to always remember when he don’t find it sexy somebody else will feel me!
I’ve never seen a real man be stopped by a bonnet lol I could have swine flu & my bf wouldn’t care… I’m giving Todd some serious side eye o.O Kinda makes me wonder… lol
if a person loves you they will accept everything that you are
NO IT SHOULDNT BE, JUST DONT WEAR THE SAME ONE LIKE YOUR GRANDMA WHEN YOURE WITH YOUR MAN. LOL.., I’m just saying
This is so stupid
Mines love it…….her husband is forgetting what he is…BLACK…and african descendant where head wrap is big
She need to dump this guy. Let him get a non black woman…
One thing I will say men act like we got to do so much for them its, always, us, feeling self conscious when you making love who cares about a damn bonnet but I guess they aren’t really into it
I hate them also. Wait till I go to sleep
Nope! He does not care!
Lorna Cunningham maybe you don’t have that problem but some people have to take extra precautions with their hair to prevent dryness and breakage. Especially when very absorbent bedding is used, it can strip the hair of its natural oil.
Newlyweds so it’s all love
Staci Scott putting up with that mother in law is going above AND beyond!!! Plus we don’t really know what he has or hadn’t done – they don’t show EVERYTHING on TV.
Its not a deal breaker at all I don’t see what the fuss is about
It shouldn’t be like that put your bonnet on anytime anyplace anywhere if he loves you he loves you…doesn’t seem like you’re very comfortable in that marriage …you have to always keep it 100 and always being yourself
Bonnet is there to stay, no doubt. A silly guy would have a lot of expectations when he’s having an eye elsewhere. Why suddenly the bonnet a problem? A woman need to hold her head high and tell him where to get off. The next thing he will tell her I need you to have a butt like Nicky…..no!
#tuh… celebrities smh
Wow that means he makes her slightly uncomfortable.I’ll have mine on when I leave want
Does it matter anymore, now that he knows?
Ok he needs to quit it! I’m sure she can complain about a million things he does or doesn’t do either and I don’t even watch this or any reality TV to know that. Smh men have THEE craziest complaints but in the meantime smell like a$$, got ugly feet, stinky breath, big stomachs, small pee pees, big pees pees with no skills, no job, hairy butts, and the list goes on!
Oh and is she the breadwinner?!..
If she does that then what the hell is his problem? Men need to be more realistic and understanding about black women hair care. But then turn around and complain about weave. We can’t win!
Todd is “down lo”!!! She need to go to bed with the WANTED ADDS to hint 4 his ass to get a JOB. All these PARASITE husbands putting DEMANDS on their ALREADY ACCOMPLISHED WIVES….MONIqUES husband too!!! #trynaBREAKurSELFESTEEMb4theyBREAKurBANKACCT.
Smh that means she needs to be alone. It’s a f****n cap….no big deal
They lived together before they were married. I can’t believe this never came up.
WOW… if a man can’t look past a bonnet… smdh… What did Kat Williams say about real Ni$$as?
I can see walking around all day in it but for goodness sake you’re sleeping. ..Are you staring at Me in my sleep. ..Please
My finace makes sure i put my bonnet on lol.
He shouldn’t care about the bonnet she’s trying to keep her hair from getting messed up. Its not like she has a 3rd boob she’s hiding and let’s it breath when he’s asleep lol
That’s just bogus. But whatever works for their relationship.
And he look like s boot-leg Kanye I am jus saying!
Um
I can see them being in divorce court soon
It shouldn’t be heck…if u wake up to morning breathe, slob on the side of your cheeks, crust in the corner of your eyes… Chile please… What about they necro dug rag and that beard?!!!…Don’t know what kind of sexually satisfaction she get from that beard rubbing against her fresh shaved twat twat…he is something else
kudos now that’s love .. I mean take some effort in keeping it fresh that means more than women know cause men don’t wanna seem like complainers or sharing that they want a sexier image at bed time .. nah they’d rather go out and find it than have to ask for it at home
Ridiculous
Kick his butt out of the bed
The hell with what Todd thinks of that bonnet, $hyt he wears that dayum hat all the time…
Heck no
Kandi you are to much of a woman to be controlled with foolishness.
That’s ridiculous. My man is white and he doest care if my hair is braided, weaved, natural looking good, natural looking a mess. He doesn’t care if I wear a bonnet, he even has helped take out weave and braids…. My baby brother grew up with mom and I doing these things and I’m sure that if he ends up with a black woman he will still remember our regimen.
I guess being with someone of the same race doesn’t always make things easier, as I would of thought.
This is doing way too much. Smdh
Not that serious. That is being too vain.
Doesn’t matter about race. She is just too into herself. And she definitely needs to quit fooling herself. I am sure his has seen women with wraps/bonnets on their heads.
Well unless my chap wants to wake up next to don King….the bonnets on!….deal breaker or not! …: )
Bonnets are not cute, I normally do cute silk scarves. But she can use a silk pillow slip. I think Todd don’t like her like that though.
Of course not, the man is clearly NOT IN LOVE with her
Stupid
LAME
Why? Because most men really don’t care.
Most men LOVE natural beauty.
No makeup no weave no fake nails… no filters!!!!
I’m dating a white man. He has seen me with and without weaves, hair bonnets, he’ll even hold the tracks while I sew them in! If this dude is worried about her hair so much, maybe he should date a wig stand!
He being petty bc the real issue he has with her is how she handles the situations with her momma
This negro seriously needs to have several seats. He is one of those typical men who thinks that a wife’s sole purpose is to cater to his every want and need. If God intended for women to always “look good” for their husbands, then He would have made us so that we wouldn’t age, gain weight, or get sick. There are some men dealing with their wives losing their hair during cancer treatments, and he’s complaining about his wife putting on a bonnet to protect hers. The bottom line is that he is petty, shallow, and probably on the DL, and apparently Kandi doesn’t have a backbone with him either.
This negro seriously needs to have several seats. He is one of those typical men who thinks that a wife’s sole purpose is to cater to his every want and need. If God intended for women to always “look good” for their husbands, then He would have made us so that we wouldn’t age, gain weight, or get sick. There are some men dealing with their wives losing their hair during cancer treatments, and he’s complaining about his wife putting on a bonnet to protect hers. The bottom line is that he is petty, shallow, and probably on the DL, and apparently Kandi doesn’t have a backbone with him either.