My Mid-Natural Life Crisis Forced To Get A Protective Style

Vanessa MichelleMany women of color rely on protective styles as a way to maximize hair growth and to not have to deal with managing the upkeep of their hair for a period of time. I personally love getting box braids or twists because the extra time in the mornings and the eliminated lengthy wash day gives me time to tackle other important things I may have going on.

I typically will get box braids once a year or attempt some kind of other protective style as a way to switch things up. That was pretty much the extent of it. I would casually decide that it was time and go with the style.

It wasn’t until recently when I actually felt forced to get a protective style. No, not by an employer or someone stating that my natural coils couldn’t be worn right now, but instead by myself because I was so close to having a breakdown for a relaxer and chop.

Yes, every natural’s worst fear. When they’re so far into their journey but not quite “there” yet. “There” for me is indicative of growth and a huge fro that when straightened will flow down my back. I feel like I’ve been stuck in this somewhat never-ending awkward stage for the past couple of months. Don’t get me wrong, my hair is definitely growing but my fro just isn’t where I want it to be.

So as I was scanning over a few hairspiration pages on Instagram, such as TheCutLife, and taking in all of the gorgeous cuts, I began to resent my own natural hair. I missed the simplicity of the short pixie cut I used to rock for 5 years. I missed how it was perfect in the summer, how it framed my face, and how it made me actually look my age.

Like an alcoholic almost reaching for the drink, I paused and for a minute seriously thought about reverting to the creamy crack.

“Wait, Vanessa! What are you doing? You’ve come too far to give up now”, is what I had to quickly tell myself to snap out of it. Next thing I know I was running to the nearest salon, like a rehabilitation center, to get my hair braided. So yes, I was forced to get a protective style.


Have any of you gone through a similar Mid-natural life Crisis?

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About Vanessa


Hi! I'm Vanessa! I'm a 26 year old natural. Making the decision to go natural has been one of the greatest decisions in my life. It has boosted my self confidence and has given me a way to express myself through the hair God has blessed me with. I had my last relaxer in Dec of 2013 and big chopped Aug of 2014 and there's no turning back! I now share my journey with tutorials and tips that work for me through my youtube platform and my blog in hopes of helping other naturalistas in their journey to natural.

About Vanessa


Hi! I'm Vanessa! I'm a 26 year old natural. Making the decision to go natural has been one of the greatest decisions in my life. It has boosted my self confidence and has given me a way to express myself through the hair God has blessed me with. I had my last relaxer in Dec of 2013 and big chopped Aug of 2014 and there's no turning back! I now share my journey with tutorials and tips that work for me through my youtube platform and my blog in hopes of helping other naturalistas in their journey to natural.

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