Struggling To Embrace Your Big Chop? – How I learned To Rock Mine!

Girl With A TWAI never thought I would ever brave the Big Chop or even consider going natural!  I always had long straight relaxed hair and had no desire to look or breathe in the other direction of the natural hair world.  Change wasn’t on my agenda… and I had grown to love my long flowing straight locks.

Was it wrong for me to have loved my chemically straightened hair?  I believe not… in fact I am very fond of straight hair still and always will be.  Beauty comes in all forms and we hold the key to defining it.

However, I learned there was a difference between loving straight hair and being slave to the relaxer or even the feeling of I MUST straighten my new growth before my natural texture begins to show.

I was the one who got her relaxer faithfully every 4-6 weeks.  Looking back that is exactly how I felt and never even knew the bondage I had subjected myself to; my thoughts kept me from embracing something new.

I had transitioned 6 months and although I planned to transition longer my relaxed hair and new growth started fighting each other making it extremely challenging for me to hold on to both textures.

You see I was getting married and during my transition phase I made a decision that as soon as our wedding was behind us I would decide to make a bold move and chop of all my relaxed hair.

At this point of my 6 months post relaxer my natural hair wasn’t that long but was definitely making its presence known and starting to seriously peek through.

I was ready and excited to see my natural texture. I couldn’t recall my texture as it had been so long since I was natural and honestly that kind of made me sad that I didn’t know the hair I was born with.

People ask me often why did you decide to BC? Well, I don’t know if it’s a simple answer really but having two textures became extremely challenging to take care of and I was ready for something new!

I couldn’t wait to see what my natural texture was, plus several friends of mine who were already natural told me that it’s so much easier to take care of and style once you BC.  Plus I figured this would be the best way to learn about my texture and what works best for me when my hair was super short. The big chop became an exciting new experience on the horizon.

I will never forget the day of my BC. I was beyond ready and nervous not only to see my true natural texture but how I would look with super boy short hair!! OMG! I had always had long hair and this was going to be a complete change for me.

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About Ashley Adams


My name is Ashley Adams and I am 32 years young born and raised from Houston, Texas and I am a stay at home wife who was blessed to marry my best friend last year! I am a newbie blogger and was inspired to mix my love for creative writing and natural hair by blogging my natural hair journey, experiences, challenges, and just my personal thoughts about the unfamiliar natural hair world that I found myself in. This journey has not only opened my eyes to so many new things but has made me tackle head on many of my fears and wonders concerning natural hair in general. My goal is to empower, educate and allow my creative juices to spill over onto my blank pages and help as many naturals as possible reach their highest potential. Thank you so very much for allowing me to share my natural hair journey and take you along with me!

About Ashley Adams


My name is Ashley Adams and I am 32 years young born and raised from Houston, Texas and I am a stay at home wife who was blessed to marry my best friend last year! I am a newbie blogger and was inspired to mix my love for creative writing and natural hair by blogging my natural hair journey, experiences, challenges, and just my personal thoughts about the unfamiliar natural hair world that I found myself in. This journey has not only opened my eyes to so many new things but has made me tackle head on many of my fears and wonders concerning natural hair in general. My goal is to empower, educate and allow my creative juices to spill over onto my blank pages and help as many naturals as possible reach their highest potential. Thank you so very much for allowing me to share my natural hair journey and take you along with me!

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