What is a failed natural hair journey?
A completely failed no holds barred natural hair journey is one where you have for whatever reason, whether it is a setback or frustration decided to walk completely away from your journey and chemically relax your hair.
We do not consider your natural hair journey a fail if you have a setback, or if you experience breakage or shedding or even heat damage, these are just learning curves. We also do not consider your natural hair journey a failure if you cut all your hair off and decided to start over again.
Know that setbacks and frustration can be a natural part of any healthy hair journey, they are considered the tough love aspects of the journey because when you recover from them you come out feeling slightly brand new, with new knowledge about your hair and about yourself.
Mistakes that you make yourself are the best lessons and they give you the authority to speak on a subject especially if you find yourself in the position to give advice.
Have you ever met a new natural that ‘aint never been through nuthin”? Sometimes they get so excited about their journey that they start to tell you the do’s and don’ts about natural hair without having had some mud on their boots first.
Albert Einstein said “Any one who has never made a mistake, never tried anything new” and believe it or not poor judgment is often what leads to experience.
An experienced natural will have a few horror stories up her sleeve; she however will not consider her hair journey a failure. She might tell you that it’s just a journey of ups and downs with more ups the longer she sticks with it.
Perfect hair journey’s do not exist so don’t let the “I have perfect hair guru” advice fool you, prepare yourself for a few snags along the way that might require a pair of scissors or a long term protective style depending on how bad things get.
In addition to that, prepare yourself for boredom and the need to want to try new things. As women we should allow ourselves the opportunity to experiment switch our style up whenever we want even when it comes to our hair, after all that is what makes us unique right?
Originally posted 2014-02-12 15:00:36.