Heat damage or any other damage is in a separate category from what natural means, damage is just damage, whether it is due to excessive heat or split dry ends. If you have four split strands in your hair those strands do not automatically become unnatural, they are just split.
The same thing goes for heat damage, if you have patches of heat damaged hair in your head, those portions are not suddenly less natural than the others, they are just damaged.
It is very difficult to separate the natural hair movement from what natural hair actually is, they seem almost one in the same but they are not. The movement is the fanfare surrounding the ‘what is natural hair’ question. It is the thing that can empower you and strip you all at the same time.
On the blogs last week we have heard many women cry foul to the natural hair movement using words to describe it like ‘Nazi’, ‘extreme’, ‘uncomfortable’ , wanting it to ‘die’ and deciding to break up with the hoopla once and for with the goal of defining their hair for themselves.
We say yes, good for you! Why not define your natural for yourself separating it from all the negativity and shenanigans. After all defining it for you does not change what grows from your scalp it just means taking charge of your own hair and beauty game without any interference from the penny section.
Sure you can identify with some aspects of the movement, and you appreciate all it has done for you whether it is in terms of your confidence, changes in lifestyle and for some dramatic changes in finances and career choices. However, gratitude is all that you owe anyone or anything that helped you on your journey, at the end of the day your hair will be defined by your own personal choices and what you are comfortable with.
Life is very cyclical; twice a child is what they say right? In this case we want to change the cycles a bit, most of us have come from a state of alienation, and hard core hate for our natural hair based on built up ridicule and shame.
We have now moved from that negativity to the point of defining it for ourselves and feeling beautiful in our own skin. Let’s take the time to enjoy that part without circling back to methods of alienation, nonacceptance and just downright ridicule that extremists tend to encourage.
It is very difficult to define natural hair for everyone else you can only define it for you so it is important to just do that, share it if you must but let the buck stop there.
Originally posted 2013-12-09 15:00:13.