It’s almost thanksgiving and this year I plan to make my infamous delectable peach cobbler.
I never grew up eating cobbler nor did I see my mom or grandmother make it, I actually learned how to make it back in 2009 from an old recipe book I found and I have done it every year since then with the same recipe.
I mentioned it to my husband last week, you know, the usual sharing, I expressed how excited I was to make it, how he will love it this year and how I intend to make a huge one in comparison to last year’s dessert.
So you can imagine my surprise when he said ‘Honey* maybe we should skip the cobbler this year and try one that is store bought or even pecan”.
“Uh say what?”
“The kids and I were talking and sometimes, it seems as if your cobbler might be missing something” – *gasp*
They say practice makes perfect and you would think the more time you spent doing something somehow guaranteed that you would be an expert at that thing but that’s not always the case.
What if your expertise was wrong the entire time? What if how you did things needed changing and after a lifetime of practice the light bulb just went off?
I am here to tell you, it can and does happen. Accepting that I did not have the best cobbler was not easy, but after looking at other ways of making cobbler I realized I could have changed a few things to ‘improve the recipe’ and yield a better result.
The thing is just because you spend a lot of time doing something doesn’t automatically mean you are good at it and natural hair is not exception. Natural hair in all it’s complexities, different textures and behaviors is not something that anyone can claim to know in it’s entirety. I’m not ashamed to admit that I learn new things about it pretty regularly.
It is possible that one may know all there is to know about retaining maximum length but remain clueless about how best to define curls. Conversely one could know a great deal about braiding natural hair but know next to nothing about maintaining dreadlocks.