If you’re new to relaxer stretching, 1 inch of new growth can be a daunting obstacle. Instead of fighting your hair to make it bend to your will, embrace textured styles until you’re able to get back to the salon.
3. She uses the same comb on your hair whether it’s bone straight or 12 weeks post. If your hair responds to different products whether you’re off a fresh touch up or well into your stretch, shouldn’t your stylist’s methods change, too? I avoid fine tooth combs, except for wet sets, even when my hair is straight. I have visited stylists who used the same comb on straight hair and curly hair, usually with disastrous results. Don’t let your hard work end it up her comb.
Bring your own comb/brush and be vocal about what she should use. The saying, “A closed mouth doesn’t get fed” is fitting when you’re in a hair salon. Unless you let her know what you do (or don’t) like, your experience will be affected.
4. She skips the DC sessions unless you request it. Before I started washing my own hair, I was clueless about what steps a successful wash day should consist of. I was more concerned with how my hair looked when I left the chair than any pampering during the process. Now that I take care of my own hair, I realize the importance of moisturizing and protein treatments.
Any stylist worth her shears knows that deep conditioning* is a necessity for healthy hair, not a treat. A deep conditioner* (or protein treatment) should be standard with getting your hair styled. Period. I was never a fan of the up-charge when you ask for a DC but I understand that times are hard. I have been to salons where they look at me sideways if I request my a DC. A good rule of thumb is if you have to beg for a deep conditioner*, it’s time to look elsewhere for your hair care needs.
Jamila Kelly says
Uuuuugh the dreaded touch ups that break my bank in between the already expensive relaxors @_@ need to learn to relax my own hair..
Shonda says
One very upsetting reason to ditch you may have left off the list. My daughter and I started our journey together on Dec. 1st (we got our relaxer and decided to stretch for 16-20 weeks) and when we went to the salon our “health trim” turned into a huge chop! All the hard work of protective styling, DC, moisturizing and sealing…EVERYTHING gone down the drain in 3 snips! I was so hurt and felt taken advantage of. And the most upsetting part is, I was never asked if I wanted a dramatic cut, they just took it upon themselves to believe “a trim” was what I needed I guess. Unfortunately, I payed for it and said nothing until I got home and vented repeatedly to any family member who would listen. I’m not proud of my reaction to being set back to square one, but I learned a painful lesson that I will NEVER allow to happen at a salon again! If you can’t trust your stylist to respect your desire to retain (healthy) length…leave them for a better one!
Samantha Petridis says
This is rediculous! Stylist protect women’s hair, from women doing damage to their own hair that think they have enough knowledge about hair but they don’t, not like full trained hairdressers that have spent years educating about, if your stylist can deal with African American or Afro hair then switch to a better stylist with more experience in that department simple, or you can completely screw your own hair and it will all fall out, your choice ladies!
Shemeke L Taylor says
Just because they do hair don’t mean your hair won’t fall out trust me I know
Jasmine Aeisha Jones says
Why do people think just because they went to 12 months of beauty school they know EVERYTHING about hair??? They talk like they have a p.h
D.or something like it was hard to obtain a beauty license. My mother is a hair stylist and I can do hair just as well as her just from watching for 20 yrs. Y’all ain’t doctors y’all just hair stylist calm down.
Lasilia Imnottheonenottoday Thornton says
i started doing my own hair because the last stylist i went to took my hair out. since ive been doing my own hair, learning about my texture, and how to care of it, my hair has grown, my scalp has healed, and my hair has gotten thicker. not all stylists are bad, but those that are have ruined it for all the others.
Brittany Love Melton says
I had to ditch my stylist because when she would detangle my hair it was like my hair was being ripped from my scalp. Why on Earth would someone comb through hair like that. Smh!
Latoya Aaliyah Small says
I hadn’t been to a salon in over 4 years that’s since I been natural. I think I’ll keep doing my own
Sakina Pecchillo says
I’ve switched stylists because of all the listed reasons in this article. Also one didn’t believe in a wide tooth comb. When I’d bring my own supplies I was told none of it was good for my hair. I’m glad I don’t visit salons often.
LaTonya Smith says
I haven’t been to a salon in 15 years they don’t ever do my hair right and love scissors. My hair down my back thanks to me and God. We got this!!
Dominique Mayfield says
I can’t ditch my stylist because she’s also my mom. Blessed to have a mom that does hair!
Seletha TheLady McCray says
Well every hair stylist is different. My hairstylist actually cares for my hair. As far as relaxers I get one every 8 weeks and my hair is past my shoulders and getting longer. Relaxers are for some not for all just like natural is not for everyone. Different strokes for different folks.