Every couple of years my parents would have our house painted. The painter we had each time, my brother and I called Uncle Raffee.
He was not related to us and I have no idea what his real name was or even how to spell it but that’s what we called him and it literally took him the entire summer to get our house painted.
We didn’t like it when it was paint season, sorry mommy and daddy! But for a kid, remembering that the banister was wet or that we couldn’t play with the paint was kinda annoying.
Needless to say Uncle Raffe would do his thing and we would learn a thing or two in-between his religious anthems (he always sang when he painted).
I remembered that the first day was always the worst, he spent hours removing layers and then priming for fresh paint because according to him fresh paint would not look right on top of all the layers of paint we already had.
The rest of the time he would spend singing, painting, adding new colors and giving us advice on a variety of topics. At the end of it the results were pretty awesome despite my reservations on the process; the house would seem to sparkle and our home appeared new again.
Uncle Raffee didn’t know it but he teaches us a very important lesson in hair care. Frankly even though we love our products, for our hair to become renewed and sparkle again we have to strip it of all the buildup, gunk and grime that we added to it in the first place just like an old house with old paint. This process is called clarifying, and there are a number of ways you can get it done.
Decide On When to Clarify
This can be confusing for some women who are early in their hair journey, because we are already focused on moisture and protein and all that jazz, how do you know when it is time to strip your hair of it all and start over?
Well frankly, your hair will tell you so you have to become very observant. Here is what I mean, if you are consistently using conditioners, deep conditioning(affiliate link) concoctions, gels, spritzers, smoothers, oils(affiliate link) and whatever else, after a while you hair will start to appear dull and lifeless.
If you have natural hair, your curls wont pop as well as they usually do, and if you have relaxed hair, you hair will no longer be light airy, bouncy with that swing you are used to. However those results are all generalities.
It is very important to know what your hair looks and feels like when it is at its best to know what it looks and feels like when it is at its worst. When you figure that out, then you will hear when she tells you. “Look boo, things are starting to get a little Cray Cray around here, too much stuff, everybody gotta go, and I need my Zen back”.
Once you have figured out when the build up situation is out of hand, then your next step is to decide on how to get the problem solved.
Originally posted 2014-01-15 15:00:49.