Have you ever been weaved checked? To be honest, I haven’t, but I know a few people in my own family and circles who have.
Even here on our social media outlets, if we post a picture of a black woman with very long hair there will be without a doubt one person that says “naaah, thats weave through and through”. As a matter of fact one of the first comments on one of the pictures Courtney (pictured above) has on her FB page was“…and its a weave*. bye felicia“.
Is it that impossible for a black woman to have super long hair and not be accused of wearing a weave even one time? It got me thinking, why does this happen?
It has to be more than just ‘hating’ that seems just too simple; it has to be something much deeper than that. Comment below on what you think the reasons are for doubt and while you are doing that here are my 3 reasons.
1. Your own experience
Many times we like to judge others based on what we know and if we haven’t been successful at achieving very long hair it might put a bit of doubt in our mind about someone eles’s success.
This is even worse if we think that the person looks like us or has the same features as us. We tend to forget that even though another person my seem like us we are all very different so we cannot rightfully pass judgement.
2. Historically we all believed that black hair cannot grow
For a long time we were all programmed to believe that black hair cannot grow past our shoulders. With bad hair practices we have all suffered a great deal when it comes to our hair.
We have very fragile strands so until we learned exactly what we needed to do to preserve our natural length, most of us had no idea what it was like to have waist length and beyond afro textured hair.
These days things are much different, now we know what it takes to grow our hair long, and if we see another woman with long hair we should be less doubtful that she has a weave.
3. Black women love weave
Hey we make no apologies for our love for extensions* so if someone is asking you if you have a weave it is only because there is a chance that you might actually have one in.
To be honest we should not be offended if someone asks if we are wearing a weave*, we should be more offended if they ask and once you tell them ‘no’ they still decide not to believe you.
That is where things get a bit ‘hairy’ no pun intended. Why do you think some black women tend to not believe that all of your hair is yours when you have long hair? Comment below.
Originally posted 2015-02-18 23:00:39.