The internet is asking the question “Would you take your weave out for your man?” and here is why. Kandi Burrus, the famed housewife that we all know and love, posted the above picture on Instagram. In the picture, she is clearly not wearing her signature weave and she tells her audience that she did it for Todd.
In the caption she wrote:
it took 4 and a half years for @todd167 to see me take out my weave for more than a day. Now he doesn’t want me to put it back in. #HealthyHair pic. On set press by @derekjhair #realhairdontcare
The responses to her post were interesting to say the least, most of them praising Todd for saying what he felt:
That’s sad it took that long. Happy you took that sh*t out, its not even popping anymore.
I think this is awesome and he is right you don’t need it, you are beautiful with or without it.
I will be the first to answer the question because for me it is an easy one. Absolutely I would but that is because I never wear a weave anyway.
Some women might feel a little different and say they would take it out for themselves and not for a man especially if they are not married or seeing said guy for any long period of time.
If we put the whole guy argument aside for a second, I think that taking out the weave and wearing your natural hair is good for the soul.
It allows your hair and scalp to breathe a bit and you can get to know your real hair again. The only time weave becomes a serious problem is when it is used as a crutch and you just cannot see yourself without one.
With that said under what circumstances would you remove your weave? And, would you remove your weave for your man? Comment below!
Nope im not removing my weave. My fiance loves my natural hair and i do too dont get me wrong but the s**t is hard to manage and i dont have the time to fiddle and faddle with it everday. Weaves are just easier to manage imo. So i told him he can accept it or not, im gna wear what makes me happy. Im the one thats gotta deal with it in the mornings and before bed not him. Lol
I’m not removing s**t. These men always want you to change but they never change for us. Get a bigger d**k. Do that.
The only ones who would say no have no hair of their own under it.
Or no man
Hilarious!
A real loves you regardless
Women have done worse for a man…prime example: Amina and Tara
Its true..too much f**kery around here
??? so true.
I hate they black…I have seen some weak females, but them two….Jesus… Mess around and get that foreva(cardi b voice)
Of course!
Um…. hells yeahs…
Why is this story even trending
Yes…I would
Yes I would I have thick beautiful hair it just takes me a little longer to do it and once you train your hair it’s cool
Yes
??? The question is will I put one on
I would if he had paid for it and it’s installation otherwise he must be happy with that his dinners cooked, clothes washed and house is cleaned. It’s autumn here starting to get cold and dry wouldn’t he have better things to worry about?
He liked it when they were dating, now it’s a problem,hummm.
All I’m saying is as women we lose so much of ourselves in relationships we should be able to do small things to express ourselves and do what we want once in a while
I totally agree, and would question him for seeking to hender that which makes her feel beautiful. #insecuredudes. I can see if she didn’t wear weaves when they met, but after the fact-please!
I’ve actually noticed the anti-weave guys are usually not busy doing important stuff so they worry about the little things or being South African some of our guys interpret weaves as things we use to mask our blackness my man had such worries until he realized that it’s just an accessory to me
??? if good ol’ reasoning doesn’t work just add half an hour to getting ready with natural hair before going out going to bed and never let him touch it???
Not my business! Not my concern.
yes
I would
For my husband, I sure would!!
Yes for every day, but on special occasion if I wanted it I would put it in. That’s something that you can give up for your man.
I stopped wearing weaves on my own while I was dating my now husband. When I revealed my real hair he was shocked and told me my natural hair brings out my pretty face and I agreed.
I did, my husband hates weave he said its misleading!! Lol. So I cut all my hair because it was too much to handle. Now we’re both happy.
Why not? Him wanting to appreciate my natural beauty is what true love is all about.
How about no weave to begin with?
Lol
I don’t need them but as we all know not everyone is born with hair that is long enough to be versatile with styling on its own. Also many black males state their preference for hair that is longer than many black women can naturally grow. We live in a society where our hair nor our skin is put forward as beautiful. Even on infomercials when they come to the black woman who always looks uncomfortable because she knows what’s coming it’s always, unpleasant looks and “now on coarse hair”….or wow even dark tones can wear it…ugh and smh..
Valerie I think what you said is a good enough reason NOT to wear a weave. They will always want to dominate how we look in order to be accepted. More people on TV are wearing their natural hair. Just like there are more commercials with Black and White couples. Things are changing. Let’s help them change, not help them to remain the same.
Glad mine is real…. Weave is so serious for many!!
For a few days yes. Why not?
I don’t think you should do it just for the man, but because you are ok with it. The man can be your catalyst or realization to remove it. In my humble opinion it should be only for enhancement and/or convienence. I don’t think a hairweave should define a woman. I wear sew ins, but mostly for convience, I am so lazy with my natural hair. But I am also ok with my natural hair.
I agree! I love rocking weave..but I love my natural hair. ??
So you spend the same amount for convenience so you don’t take care of your natural hair?? ?
Tie your hair up at night, and then wake up and go.
I’m not removing my weave for nobody
Yes, it’s called #SubmittingToYourHusband
Listen love doesn’t come if you’re wearing a weave or if you’re not but seeing that lil midget asshole in action I perceive it to be more of a power move, more of a see what she’ll do for me type thing I don’t like that, if I’m bald or wearing it jet black and down my back I will wear my CROWN however I wish, my hair is not my heart not my soul, my hair style is how I wish to adorn myself.
That’s her husband not a boyfriend, man etc and you suppose to compromise with each other on everything. In a marriage
Real looks better, my opinion!
Nope. Lol. I have medium length hair and wear my weaves the length of my hair, but my type 4 is mad disrespectful, so easier for me to wig/weave it.
I remove it for myself, i love my hair..lol…but my man does love my natural hair also
See it’s already starting, the tearing down why do you have to be bald headed or ain’t got no man if you wear a weave it’s just not true I wear it or I don’t or as my HUSBAND of 19 yrs says he always comes home to something new hair doesn’t matter our affection for one another does.
Is this really the topic ???? Chile bye
Ummm yeah
Never! if he don’t like it then he can take a hike!
Can’t believe this is as actually a question, Your partner didn’t marry you for the hair. You should do what you want with your hair, go natural or have weave on shouldn’t make a difference.
It makes a difference if a man doesn’t want to be part of that.
Ohh for sure
What is funny about this article is that it is asking, Would you do it for your man? Heck yes I would do it in a heart beat. A lot of folks that is saying they would not is probably single and wondering why they are single. Being submissive is not a bad thing. Especially if he is doing things to change himself in the process.
Ha…so true!
I agree, I think most people misunderstood the question, relationships are give and take in all areas of your life.
Right! I love when my husband has facial hair If I tell him to let it grow, he’ll do it in a heartbeat. #compromise
Nope
Well maybe he was tired of seeing that fake hair all the time. Woman these days wont take it out even if their lives depended on it, have two strands of hair left but going to get a weave. Hes helping her out in my opinion so glad she did it.
Hair doesn’t make a woman! Weave or not
Yes I would, but I don’t wear them, even when I cut all my hair off literally..
Of course why not.
Yea… Doesn’t make sense
Nope❌❌
Women who wear weave should get tired of it sometimes geez !
No concern for me bc mine is real but the comments… Wow
I wear my hair how I please. My husband loves me no matter how I wear my hair. My hair is natural but I change my look a lot because I get bored. I’ve never worn a weave but I have a collection of wigs. No man will dictate my looks.
EXACTLY
Loving my wigs ..no weave tho:-) 🙂
YES, HE KNOW I GOT HAIR,,,
Yes! I would remove it all , to reveal my nature.
I don’t wear my hairstyles for no one but me.
Yeah right
I don’t wear weave
Yes take me as I am no secrets or lies love me good n bad ugly n beautiful what’s ur secret
When little black girls go to school they see other girls with straight hair, then when they go home they see their black mom with straight hair, then when their black mom is doing their hair they say s**t like “Sit your nappy headed ass down”.
Black women are killing their children’s self-esteem and they don’t give a crap because they are selfish.
When you see 9 year old black girls with sew-in Indian weave in their head. You know that things are bad.
The never ending cycle.
My grandmother would sleep in her wig because she didn’t want her second husband to see her balding head…I never could understand why she was so embarrassed if this man is supposed to love her! Anyway, they later divorced….my husband doesn’t like fake hair and don’t either and never have.
#toeachherown#
I’m not obsessed with weave, I wear my own permed hair.
before dating someone and getting in a relationship,I make sure he sees me without my weave and make-up…that way I don’t have to pretend.
Truth. I’d rather you see the real me up front. That way if there is an issue we can get that out of the way early, No time wasted, no hurt feelings.
For a great man I would but I get one off and on
I just took out my braids by request of my man and I’m fine with that. But he doesn’t always get his way. He wants me to only wear my natural, but I do high intensity workouts 6 days a week and I get bored with the same style, so braids and weaves are regulars in my rotation.
I don’t see nothing wrong with taking a request or two from your man every now and then. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or your hair styles, he, like all of us, may have a preference.
Absolutely! It’s just hair.
She has beautiful hair. I don’t see why it took that long for him to see it. To a man he couldn’t tell the difference in her weave or her hair without the weave.
If you’re married (like she is) and you can’t remove your weave? Then chillllle I’m glad my husband don’t give a fudge he accepts me even on my worse days he tells me I’m beautiful when I do NOT lol he never pressures me to look a certain
Why not?
I don’t see why not. Just like happy wife….a happy husband is important too.
kandi is a weave
Not for big head Todd but for herself
If it was a temporary thing, sure. As long as I’m not restricted to when and if I could return to wearing my hair as I pleased.
No he found me wearing weave/wigs lol
Yeah I’ll take my weave out in front of him to wash my hair. After that, put my weave right back in!!
This is easy for me I most definitely would would! But for selfish reasons lol I find it HIGHLY intoxicating when my man runs his fingers through my hair/ scalp and/or washes my hair so if getting some “play” time is the result then count me in!!!! #omg #thinkinganoutitnow #beatmespankmepullmyhair
Yes ..most men do not like fake hair all the time 24/7 and the older I get I just don’t feel like having fake hair but do put braids in my hair from time to time..
I think it’s great when a man loves the natural you..
YES AS LONG AS HE IS PAYING HIS MONEY TO KEEP MY NATURAL HAIR DONE…
Yes if he pays to keep it up ….wash wrap flat ironed then yes no problem
Yes I wood and I have before
Women honestly don’t need to wear one. But many do for preference. Love yourself first. I don’t wear a weave anyway. I’m happy that I don’t.
No I wouldn’t…
Asha Taylor
Why not. Love is.. …patience and is kind
Now will I leave it out. …another story!
Lol
Anytime! Bam! No prob!
Todd is on a mission! First it was the hair bonnets she sleeps in now the weave! What’s next ?
Yes i would
Good. She didn’t need it.
She probably took it out because she didn’t want to wear it and he like it
I remove because I feel comfortable with my natural hair. But I definitely would like my man satisfied with my look. I have done it many times for my man.
If I’m going to remove my weave for a man, he’s going to have to pay me cause’ Shea butter ain’t cheap boo boo. But if it ain’t that type of situation, no I’m not going to take my weave of for you. Being natural is a personal choice and journey.
Do it because you feel that it’s right for you. Never do things to please a man. If he likes your change then it’s a double win for you both.
Yes I believe so, he’s yours and your keeping him happy and looking gorgeous at the same time
Take me as i mother**king am. You probably known me with weave so why should i removed it when we are dating. F**k that
But that’s not how you really are. That’s something you add to yourself. Why would you be upset that he wants to see the real you, no additions?
I wear my hair how I please. If I had a man, I guess he would eventually see it, but I’ll never have that issue #singlelife
If you have nice hair under the weave, it’s healthy and not damaged, why not but do it for yourself first:)
Todd have a seat. Geeesh!! What’s next?? U knew this before you married her. Really!!
Haven’t wear one since 2000
Not our business
I’ll remove it for him and me
But he met her wearing weave..n i bet every woman he done laid wit in the last decade was wearing weave..i cant with the ignorancy…
Team Natural!
First off a REAL MAN who TRULY LOVES YOU will not give a dam if you wear weave or not. That’s why alot of men are by themselves to worried about what’s in the outside instead of what’s on the inside. Hair don’t make the woman!
LaShon L.Earl best comment:-) 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂
so if hair dont make the woman why do they wear it?
Let’s remember that there is alopecia, chemotherapy, etc different situations why people where weave. Many men have no clue what true beauty is.
I would bcuz Im his eye candy!!!!
,yes :/ yes
she looked better when her hair was short anyway. yes, if your man thinks it looks better. now if he says don’t cut your hair because he likes long hair then I don’t know.
Yes and I removed my weave for me…
What’s wrong with him saying that her hair is already beautiful and she doesn’t need a weave to fill beautiful?? Nothing !!
There’s nothing wrong with her submitting to her man. In a relationship, we all have to makes sacrifices. Doesn’t mean he don’t love her or think she’s beautiful with it, maybe he just wants her to embrace her natural a little more. If its not hurting me I wouldn’t have a problem changing my hair for my husband. If it doesn’t work out for me I’ll let him know and he should understand.
For my husband I would.
i go both ways sometimes i got in weaves sometimes i dont…..im not afraid to show the me without weaves because i know im beautiful without it, only the ugly ones are afraid to show it without
Really….. A black woman’s priority in life is whether she should or should not reveal her natural hair to her boyfriend…… OK
My husband loves me with or without. I took mine out and now I miss it.
I could wear my natural curls everyday but my husband loves it straight so I straighten it every 6 months #compromise he likes the curls too tho
Lol!!! bless her heart she stay posting every step she makes…she’ll be in tthe bathroom next posting what toilet tissue she uses..
Hell no my head my rules, he just gonna have to deal with it.
Yes, especially since it’s tall n healthy I just can’t bother with it, as long as he paying for the weekly up keep sure
Absolutely…and we’re 10 years in the game. A little give & take never hurt nobody and every man don’t like weave..I know mine hates it & I love him for it cuz he loves my natural hair and, because of him, so do I
Yes, if it didn’t matter to me….and it doesn’t.
Looks younger
I dont wear one. But if I did, why not?
You’re beautiful with or without weave…. it’s not your husband choice, it’s your choice. <3
I’ve been natural for 6 years. Married for 7. I currently have a sew in & it is the 1st time in my 31 years of life having any type of extensions in my head. I wanted to try it out & give myself a break for the summer. My husband thought it was a good idea. It’s no crutch merely a decision. My hair is mid back length @ the moment. I love my natutal hair but this sew in ain’t so bad @ all & it will definitely be around for awhile!
That’s good she did. I hate weaves but if I had one I’d definitely take it out for my man. Kudos khandi
I am trying to understand why women wear weaves anyway. There has been so much talk about them having worms in them, keeping women’s hair from growing , and even killing some people. We can all tell that it is a weave. And, there is no individuality. Most women who wear them all look the same. I would rather rock a bald head than a weave. Kandi, thank Todd. You have beautiful hair, and you look beautiful. I often wonder why people wear those things and are always brushing it out of their face and throwing their head around like it’s theirs. I hope by this time next year, Kandi will have set a trend.
I would because for me it is a minor request because my husband spoils me rotten!!! I’m natural now but I did wear weave for a year and when I took it out my husband ran his fingers through my hair and loved it! So at that point I was Done! I have no problem not wearing it!
This reminds of of the Sanaa Lathan movie where she dated the white landscaper and he liked her without it. I haven’t worn a weave in years, but I have worn crochet braids. I’m older, and when you get older, your hair thins out, is grey and is hard to grow. So adding hair is usually a necessity. I currently wear an afro wig about 3-4x a week and my own hair under a cap the rest of the time. I do enjoy the freedom of waking up in the morning, spritzing my hair, putting leave-in conditioner in it and brushing.