No matter how you slice it, us natural girls have our own ways of doing things and we are pretty set in them. This list is for the guy who might be used to a woman with straight hair, maybe a perm or a weave*, and who might need a little help navigating that natural world since falling in love with that little cutie kinky* haired girl down the street.
Here are 5 simple things every guy should know when dating a woman with natural hair.
1. She sheds
Yes, you will see hair in odd places even though she seems very meticulous about cleaning up behind herself. She has a head full of thick curly unruly hair and no matter how she tries she wont be able to catch it all. How you can help: Invest in a good vacuum, and don’t complain.
2. She needs all those products
Do not judge what you do not understand, everything has use, and everything is needed, so yes she will need a draw and a small cabinet dedicated to her stuff. How you can help: make sure the cabinet is big enough to hold more than just a couple of things and don’t hesitate to ask about what each thing is for, you never know she might have something you could use.
3. She has head wear for night time
Listen, if she lets you see the scarf or night cap chances are she is comfortable and she thinks you are a keeper. We know its not cute or sexy but it protects our hair from damage so just ignore it. How you can help: Get her a silk pillow case with her own pillow for when she comes over, it wont eliminate the hat but it will give you at least 100 brownie points, you can thank me later.
4. Be nice
No weird comparisons, or references to the Color Purple or Coolio. We know that sometimes things might flash in your head and you might think it is ok to say, but trust me if it isn’t positive, its better off not said at all.
An A$AP Rocky reference is not our idea of a great compliment, no shade to the rapper, but lets just stick to neutral references shall we? How you can help: Be supportive, show interest in learning about her hair habits as you would any of her other habits, just makes for an easier life.
5. Don’t mention your preference for straight hair
Listen, do not get into a relationship with a naturalista thinking you can eventually change her style. Natural hair is very versatile so her choice in hairstyles are wide and varied. Straight hair might not be on her radar, and then again it might be.
If you wanted to date her in the first place then it shouldn’t matter how often she straightens her hair. How you can help: Support and appreciate all her hairstyles if you have a hair style preference feel free to share it, but do not make it define your relationship with your girl.
Do you have any other things you would share with a guy who is planning to date a natural girl? Comment below!
Originally posted 2014-12-18 20:00:18.