Demetria Lucas of the TV show Blood Sweat and Heels took to Instagram this week and posted a selfie with no weave and no make up with the caption:
Me. #noweave #nomakeup #getfree #ordietrying
Honestly I had no idea she wore a weave on occasion, she has always kept it all natural in terms of her look, her hair always is full, styled nicely, and even in the selfies her actual hair is nothing short of amazing.
Demetria Lucas is a pretty accomplished young lady outside of the show, she is an author and very successful blogger making a name for herself coaching and helping other young women with very relevant social topics like dating and relationships.
Even though we liked the selfie a particular question from one of her followers caught our eye and we thought her answer was quite interesting. The follower on Instagram asked:
@abelleinbk do you ever get low key racist remarks regarding your natural hair when you make appearances? Have you in the past?
Her response was:
Only from other black people. Never at appearances. More on social media. And its not low key. It’s more like “n-bomb, comb our (expletive hair)
It was surprising, because, really who wouldn’t love her hair but then it wasn’t that surprising because we often hear and see ourselves, particularly on Facebook, the level of hate and disdain women with natural hair get on a daily basis. We have had readers comment on pictures with just outrageously mean comments to which us moderators dismiss them as trolls, often wondering if there is any point of even arguing.
Ultimately there is no point, natural hair within the black community on a wider scale than just our small circles still requires some work where acceptance is concerned. That just means there is a ton of work to do in order to break the cycle of hate that some might have for what is growing out of their own scalp and as always we are up for the challenge.
Have you ever wondered why we do celebrity posts?
It might seem as if its all fun and games and often times we are having a lot of fun, who doesn’t like a little celeb gossip every now and then? But there are other reasons too, sometimes celebrities can reach certain people in ways that a regular person cannot, so when influential women show acceptance for something as simple as natural hair it needs to be highlighted and Demetria is no different.
So in the spirit of what Demitira said, how do you handle natural hair haters?
I LOVE her hair!!!!
So so true I get the same remarks by so called black friends. Some “comb that nappy, ugly hair ” or “it looks ugly u need a perm.” it’s so sad that your own ppl won’t accept me and my “Natural” hair, it’s so, so Sad.
Some of these famous black celebrities needs to go natural and show black girls that weave. Wigs and chemicals I’d NOT always the answer.Natural black Kinky Coily hair IS beautiful hair.
Even though commenting puts them in place best to ignore.some people are juat ignorant an will argue an argue just because
I dont even get how anyone can hate the hair that comes out of their scalp…. Like… Isnt that selfhate?
Nice!!!
Just ignore the haters. They’ll always be haters, until they start loving themselves…
Why should anyone care how anyone wears her hair? It’s OUR hair to wear how we want! Just do your thing – natural, permed, bald, wigged!!!
The only people that care so much and dislike so much are black men.
Most of the time I just ignore them, sometimes I fire back n shut em up… Depends on my mood at the time I guess…
Looks good!
There are natural celebrities in Hollywood.
Go Demetria!
My feelings was hurt one day, when my black co workers was sitting with a white co worker and they was talking about my nappy hair. My first reaction was hurt but than I felt relief I knew where I stood. Free free free at peace liberated not afaird to embrace me!
What kills me is the overall judgement of others, regardless of their choices. Women who relax judge women who are natural and vice-versa. Ladies, just do *you* and be comfortable with that. Blonds like their hair short, curly, long, wavy. Red heads get keratin blow-outs. They don’t get judged for styling their hair different than what they were born with. As long as where you are coming from in your hair choices is not from a place of self-hate or judgement then I say you just do *you*. Curly one day. Straight the next. Relax. Texlax. Whatever. Just love yourself and love your hair — 306 degrees of mental, physical, and spiritual health. Take care of all of you and be the best version of yourself you can be. Period. 🙂
*360 degrees. Decided to correct that before someone calls me out on it. If there are other mistakes, slow your roll and just learn to read “typoese” and carry on 🙂
I just say…’I’m happy nappy!!’
Only black people (also self hating mulattoes from Puerto Rico, the DR or Cuba) hate kinky hair.
It really is a mental health issue.
Her hair is fake. That’s not natural. She needs to stop. She touts an arrogant and so better than attitude how about take that weave out.
She is wearing weave that looks like her hair, not some tacky hair from a woman from another race.