Let Us Take One Last Critical Look At This – Are Extensions On Children A Form of Child Abuse?


After reading a recent post about a mother who received backlash from concerned parents and citizens on social media for installing faux locs on her daughter’s hair, I couldn’t help but wonder when a simple hairstyle which is loved by many suddenly became abusive.

I mean, is it child abuse because faux locs is a style that’s commonly worn by adults?  Or is it child abuse because the child is wearing extensions? Perhaps it’s the tightness of the hairstyle that makes it to be very abusive on the child.

I for one have never considered hair extensions, relaxers, or hair dyes to be appropriate on kids; call me old school, but that’s just my opinion. I know some of you are probably thinking, “Caucasians wear extensions too, so what’s the big deal?”

While you may be right, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with adults wearing any hairstyle that pleases them, but when it comes to children, caution must be taken on how they are presented to the public.

In fact, prior to my discovery of the natural hair community, I never thought much about extensions on kids because it was so prevalent that it became normal to me. However, I did frown upon relaxers and weaves on children because I know how damaging those hairstyles can be on an adult, let alone on young children.

So, how do children end up wearing extensions and unacceptable (or in some people’s words “abusive”) hairstyles? 

Since our children are a representation of us, they will likely dress in a way that’s similar to the way the parents dress.


This means that moms who grew up in a weave culture won’t see the big deal in fixing a quick weave on their child. And if she grew up believing that a hairstyle has to be tiny and tight, then the child will have no choice but to bear the pain of a new hairstyle.

It’s even worse if the mother has a receding hairline and balded patches as a result of aggressive hairstyles because it can mean bad news for the child’s edges. Also, a mother who got her first relaxer at a young age won’t see anything wrong with relaxing her two years old’s hair. After all, it’s just hair, it will grow back.

Since you can only teach what you know, a mother with inadequate knowledge of healthy hair care won’t have much to teach the child.

As a result, she will likely style the child’s hair in a hairstyle that’s easier and more economical. An example of an economical hairstyle could be braided extensions that will last weeks, though it may be too heavy for the child to carry or a relaxer which can burn the child’s scalp and disturb the child’s natural hair growth cycle.

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Hi, my name is Adeola, I'm a natural hair blogger who is passionate about helping YOU to achieve your hair goals, whether it be to have longer hair, softer hair or a healthy head of hair in general. I know what it’s like to be clueless about natural hair, and this is why I’m here to help you create a practical hair care routine that will give you softer hair that is less painful to comb, easier to manage and that can grow long. To get these practical tips, VISIT my WEBSITE to DOWNLOAD MY FREE E-BOOK "Natural Hair Simplified in 5 Steps".

About Adeola Adegbusi


Hi, my name is Adeola, I'm a natural hair blogger who is passionate about helping YOU to achieve your hair goals, whether it be to have longer hair, softer hair or a healthy head of hair in general. I know what it’s like to be clueless about natural hair, and this is why I’m here to help you create a practical hair care routine that will give you softer hair that is less painful to comb, easier to manage and that can grow long. To get these practical tips, VISIT my WEBSITE to DOWNLOAD MY FREE E-BOOK "Natural Hair Simplified in 5 Steps".

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Veronica Solomon Thomas

No, I personally, don’t think it’s abuse. I did not grow up with extentions or early relaxers, but feel some age appropriate extentions are ok and ask that the braids are not too tight.

Dani Simone Craig

This article is beyond dumb, a Mom who has weaves will do the same to her child’s hair…really! My Mom had weaves and I didn’t get a relaxer until I was 12 and was never interested in weaves.

Tashone Black

I thought that was real locs!?!?!!

Senora Brown

By looking at this lil ladys picture we cant really judge , I think its a very age appropriate style.. but certainly NOT abusive. Its sure better than burning her hair out in heat damages. The Mom can still wash, condition, and treat her scalp, with this style.

Bridget Ford

Shut up.Stick a hair bundle in your mouth

Renee Brammah

Seriously, stop it! This little girl looks very pretty as she is , good job mom.

Kim Carr-Washington

Seriously,nothing else to.write about so attack the culture?

Darline P Watkins

If the hair is being braided too tightly, as a parent you chose the wrong braider. You as a mother or guardian should watch your child while their hair is being done and tell them not to braid so tight. It’s just simply parenting skills.

Ricardo Norville

There is something deeper and where this is going ………….who gets extensions and which race does this 99% of the time …………..if you cant figure out where this is going i feel sorry for you……..people wake up!

Debbie Hodge

Seriously? ???? Are u out of topics to talk about? Like for real for real?!!

Wanda Chamberlin

I feel like as a black mother I’m damned regardless of what I choose. We have to start fighting back against this bull or before you know it we won’t be able to make any decesions on or children. Braids are fine so long as they are not placed on the hair too tightly we need to educate these people…smh.

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iammastar21

Well I can’t say anything about anyoneelse’s kids .If I have a child , my child will wear their natural hair and I will teach my child to love their natural hair . When my child becomes an adult , he or she can do whatever they want to their hair . Case closed .