Can A White Girl Be A part Of The Natural Hair Movement? – Curly Nikki Post Controversy

Curly Nikki controversy

We cannot even sit here with straight faces and pretend like we have not noticed the controversial topic of discussion this week. To get you up to speed, basically Sarah of Curls & Blossoms shared her curly hair story with Curly Nikki. Sarah is a white woman. Since then both she and Curly Nikki have received a ton of  backlash for sharing that particular natural hair journey and the opinions are rolling in like an uncontrolled wildfire.

The team here on BHI have been talking about it as well, we have all seen the comments and we have tried to rationalized why black women feel so strongly as to why we cannot see the “curly hair struggle” as a united struggle beyond race and beyond texture.

I will share the same two comments Sarah shared on her blog here:

“Why do we need to make spaces for people who already have representation? Always so willing to accommodate and yet always being less accommodated. Making spaces for white women in the limited spaces made for women of colour isn’t going to change anything.”

“Still shaking my head at the black women on here defending this mess. Y’all are absolutely pathetic. I don’t want to hear any of you complaining when white women take over Essence and they change “Black Girls Rock” to “All Girls Rock”. We basically have nothing for ourselves, so we carve out a little space of our own in the beauty world and sellouts are ready and willing to hand this precious space over to white women. It’s amazing. And sad.”

Then there is this comment:

“You are free to call your hair whatever you want, but seeking inclusion in a space that was created to allow black women the opportunity to buck conventional ideals of western beauty standards, learn to accept and embrace themselves despite the images that we see in the media, and gain an understanding for our hair despite having few external examples to learn from, is the real issue. You cannot ignore the politics that exist surrounding black hair. Black children are being sent home from school for wearing their hair in afros.

Black men have to wear their hair shaved low otherwise it’s deemed unprofessional, and black women are told that the way that our hair grows out of our scalps is inappropriate for professional settings. These are real challenges that we uniquely face and the natural hair movement was created in part to begin to dismantle them. So please, call your hair whatever you wish, but quit seeking inclusion in a space that was created to challenge the very privilege that you apparently don’t even realize that you enjoy.”

Sarah’s responded on her blog…

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About Petra

Hi I'm Petra Lomax , a staff writer and editor for . I am Jamaican born and raised and moved to the United States in my early 20's. I have a BA in Political Science and International relations as well as an MBA and a Masters In Project Management. I love travel, culture and anything that has to do with creative media and business.


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  1. Sharonda Adams
    Sharonda Adams

    This post is full of ignorance and racism. The problem today is that so many black people DONT think that what their saying is rascist because they are saying it about white people. It sickens me that the same people who preach love and acceptance will turn around and attack their fellow women. I don’t know if anyone else sees this but im tired of this nonsense and how blind everyone is.

    1. Ada Obiwulu
      Ada Obiwulu

      I am sick of it! They are all racists creating divide everywhere! No man even deserves to end up with such hateful women..that’s more things to hate about. They sound like losers. Someone needs to bash them about wearing weaves wigs extensions and perms. They need to change their attitude

    2. Rivian Jones
      Rivian Jones

      Sharonda Adams I try to stay out of these post because some of these so called black proud natural sista’s cause separation amongst there on community. I.e. writing nasty comments on post for relaxed hair, attacking women with perms and the list goes on. I’m so over all of this!

    3. Destine
      Destine'a Torres

      I don’t think it’s all about hate. I just think for once black women want to heal and uplift black women like white women are always put up as the standard of beauty and now they want to tell us how to be beautiful and natural no I think we need our own thing this time I’m sorry

  2. Jennifer Price
    Jennifer Price

    Here’s the problem, though: if white people are to be excluded from every movement we start…….then they are completely justified in excluding us from every movement they start. Really think about that for a second. Is that a wise move to want to make? Let’s not even talk about all the things white people have created that we DO enjoy and take part in from day to day. Were you wrong when you jumped on their bandwagon? What makes it wrong when she wants to jump on our bandwagon occasionally? We’re better as a whole when we embrace one another than when we exclude one another, as legitimate as our differences may well be.

    1. Jennifer Price
      Jennifer Price

      And before somebody gets on this thread with a rebuttal, look at the phone or computer you’re typing on. The white guy who created Facebook in the first place for there to even be a black hair care page. The internet that houses Facebook and billions of other pages. If you still feel we’re justified in using things they created, but they’re wrong in taking part in our movements, I’m ready to listen with an open mind as to why you think so. I earnestly am.

    2. Cassandra McNeil
      Cassandra McNeil

      For me the concern is I do not want them (white women) to come and try to take over our arena. Why does she want us to here her story her when there are so many other black women are sharing there experiences that we can relate too.

    3. Jennifer Price
      Jennifer Price

      I gotcha. And while I wouldn’t shun the lady from the movement, I also wouldn’t actively take hair advice from her since the reality is our hair is very different – there’s no disputing that fact. I hear you on that. If she posted an article I might respectfully glance over it just for knowledge’s sake and then actually DO something I read on a sista’s page.

    4. Monte Elis
      Monte Elis

      We’ve always been excluded from their movements. Whilst they appropriate everything good and amazing about our culture. Their sense of entitlement disgust me.

  3. Michelle Pulliam
    Michelle Pulliam

    The question is…. Why would they want to be involved? I have no desire to be a part of any movement that is not centered around my personal interest. So since when has black hair been of personal interest to white women;….and more importantly, why do we have to always bow down and invite others. Our culture is in ruins as it is and while white people are not entirely to blame, they have played a vital role. So on this small slice of blackness…. This one thing that united our sisters and elevated our love for each other… I say No. No and I promise you that if you start your own natural hair community black women won’t be angry or upset one bit. We may even support you in finding your sisterhood as we have.

  4. Aaliyah Ingram-Jones
    Aaliyah Ingram-Jones

    Can we just embrace our culture without being called “racist”? Its not racist when other people try to go back to the roots of their culture. But if we try to grasp it and embrace and show pride in it we are immediately being exclusive of someone else. This “United” states is really A trip.

  5. Latrice Smith
    Latrice Smith

    This is our movement, we always have to include them in our stuff. Have they ever included us in anything? They talk about our hair is bad, they discriminate against Black men & women wearing braids, locks, naturals. You have to “tone” your hairstyles down for their standards. Get your own movement that doesn’t hijack from ours.

  6. Pamela Smith
    Pamela Smith

    So, if we include them and their so called “struggle” with hair issues, does this mean we get more aisle space and shelf space at the store or do we still have our hair care products stuffed into the corner on the back shelf under ‘ETHNIC HAIR CARE’??? Will the stores eagerly except our products mixed right in with theirs? Will we no longer need our own beauty supply store?? Will there be someone at their salon that can do our hair? Will they be buying up all of the shea butter or african black soap now? And lastly, will it now be called Black and White Hair Care Information?? I hope the hell not!!! Let us please, for heaven’s sake, have something of our own. Don’t jump on our bandwagon, start one of your own.

  7. Melissa M. Seville
    Melissa M. Seville

    I thought this page was a place for black women to share their natural hair journey. I have nothing against white women and their hair but, if they want to talk about their own journey, they should make a page for themselves so they and others with the same hair texture can relate. Me being a black women with the type of hair I have, can’t relate to a white woman’s hair struggle. We are the only race that seem to have the type of hair we do and i couldnt take advice from someone who knows nothing about my hair for the simply fact they dont have that texture. They talk about frizzing and not holding a curl. That’s not my issue. I talk about how long it takes to do my hair and maintain it, that’s not their issue. We are equal but, separate. Somethings we just have to keep for ourselves without others trying to jump on the bandwagon and start making changes. I’ve tried to explain my journey to my white counterparts and it’s as if it’s a phenomenon to them the struggles I’ve gone through. Bottom line, if we had the same hair texture, then YES!!! I would have no issues at all. They can be apart of it, but until then NO! And this has noting to do with insecurities, there are some things that just need to be separate and this is one of them. It would be like comparing apples to bananas. You cant!

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