Ladies Who Have Gone Back To Relaxed Hair After Being Natural

We are so used to seeing the hair stories of women ditching their relaxers and embracing their natural textures that it may surprise you to learn that there are a few who after having been natural for some time, have opted to go back to relaxing their hair.

Now of course the number of women going back is nowhere near the number who are currently transitioning to natural but a quick search on YouTube will reveal that their numbers are not to be sneezed at either.

When it comes to handling hair in it’s natural state, a lot of ladies are quite unprepared for how thick and perhaps coarse natural hair is compared to the flat, straight relaxed texture that they have grown used to.

And truth be told, majority of us who transitioned to natural were not doing so from thick healthy relaxed hair but rather over-processed, thin strands that we couldn’t wait to get rid of anyway. But once hair education sinks in and women learn that healthy long hair can be attained both as naturals and relaxed then it becomes clear why some women choose to go back.

Here is The Mo Show showing us how she went from natural to relaxed hair:


Looking at my own family, all of us (sisters and mom) decided to go natural at around the same time back in 2008 and in retrospect, not one of us could have claimed to have had ‘healthy’ relaxed hair.

Mine had that unsightly brown tinge hair relaxed hair gets when it’s been over-processed, my sister’s would break at a strong gust of wind and my mum’s edges were slowly eroding away with each touch up. Still we all decided to ditch the chemicals for various reasons. My reason as I’ve mentioned before was because I finally wanted length and thickness.

Another natural to relaxed story on the following page

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About Alma Ruddock


I’m Alma Ruddock, the founder and editor-in-chief of Blackhairinformation.com. I stumbled on a hair care forum back in 2008 frustrated with my breaking relaxed hair and the information that I found there changed the fate of my hair, and quite possibly my life, forever! I immediately started to transition to natural hair and started BlackHairInformation.com as a way to help both myself and other women of color achieve their dreams of long healthy hair. I have now achieved my goal length and I continue to help others achieve their dreams too. My three passions are hair, art and entrepreneurship and I love to be able to bring my unique view on hair growth and successful hair journeys to our readers. I am an eternal optimist and workaholic. In addition to BHI I have founded quite a few other websites and businesses including Elongtress Hair Vitamins and Urban Gyal which all fall under the umbrella of my company Coils Media Ltd.

About Alma Ruddock


I’m Alma Ruddock, the founder and editor-in-chief of Blackhairinformation.com. I stumbled on a hair care forum back in 2008 frustrated with my breaking relaxed hair and the information that I found there changed the fate of my hair, and quite possibly my life, forever! I immediately started to transition to natural hair and started BlackHairInformation.com as a way to help both myself and other women of color achieve their dreams of long healthy hair. I have now achieved my goal length and I continue to help others achieve their dreams too. My three passions are hair, art and entrepreneurship and I love to be able to bring my unique view on hair growth and successful hair journeys to our readers. I am an eternal optimist and workaholic. In addition to BHI I have founded quite a few other websites and businesses including Elongtress Hair Vitamins and Urban Gyal which all fall under the umbrella of my company Coils Media Ltd.

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Semendablessed Howard

Neither ♥one ♥diffcult to (ME)!!

Regina Stevenson

I would not mind but,they burn me so bad.

Toyia Newman-Neal

Natural hair is harder to manage but much healthier

Donna White-Blake

I had a relaxer for years, just did the big chop 2 wks ago…no more blow drying and flat ironing. I am loving this wash and go!

Kelley Kells Grant-Weakley

I’m so glad that I’m happier natural than I ever was relaxed. I’ve learned so much. But whatever makes them happy. Don’t bash them. It’s all about sisterhood and supporting one another.

KShanta R Nunn

I’m about to relax after 16 months!

Kiona D Beard

I’ve had 4 clients within the last 2 weeks return to relaxers. They said that they became overwhelmed with the day to day styling and constantly trying to find products to maintain the proper amount of moisture in their hair, and living in the south it’s really hard especially in the summer months. I’ve found that with being relaxed or natural, you have to keep your ends clipped, get the proper treatments as well as keep as much heat off of your hair as possible. Your hair can be healthy both ways as long as you take care of your hair!! Much love ladies!!

Ursie Browneyed Saunders

If u don’t have the time to put in to the natural look then I understand why some ppl go back…it takes time to manage natural hair…however…I love my naturals…lok

Joyvaundra Bester

Natural or relaxed a healthy hair journey is just that, a journey! There’s no right or wrong answers! You can attain healthy hair in either state, it’s whatever works best for the individual! I commend any journey cuz it’s not easy! That being said being natural is the best hair decision I’ve made for myself in a long time & I love the versatility!

Chandra Ephriam Wells

If I don’t like my natural hair, im going back to relaxed. To each his own.

Francine Croom

I like relaxers, but you have to keep getting them once you start…havent permed mine since 2010 . I wear weaves alot but my natural hair is close to my twins. Perm or natural , they both have their pluses.

Hellodiva Campbell

Whateva makes u happy and at peace… Best thing in world

D'Marie Landry

Yes Stacie Hart

Antoinette Toni Tayborn

Toni Sims, amen. I went natural last year and the experience taught me how to appreciate and take care of my hair. I look good either way and feel good both ways. I know that I used to think taking care of relaxed hair was a lot of work but now I don’t feel that way.
Since going natural, I make all my own hair products except holding gels. I know if I go back to a relaxer, it’s getting touched up every 3 months, not every month since I know how to handle my hair now.
We should stop with the harsh judgements, the works is doing a great job of that without us.
For those in Memphis, if you go back to perms or vice versa, see Dr Lisa Akbari. She makes all her products, even perm and texturizer.

Antoinette Toni Tayborn

World not works

Jonae D Spencer

As long as its healthy i said go for what works for you.

MzLoving Kamron

If i ever go natural itll just be to get my hair healthy but once its long & healthy id go back to relaxers .

Kiér Lindsey

As much as it may be annoying maintaining natural hair, I will never go back. I experienced such a powerful feeling when I cut my perm ends off and saw how beautiful my hair was in its natural state.

Nena
Nena

Well, yes, it’s not easy having a natural hair. I myself have appeared here in despair because I was really bad after a year of my BC. I”ve calmed down (thank this site), really want to keep being a natural but as my hair is still short even after a year (and no, it’s not breaking), I don’t have many style options. Braids don’t let me take care of it, so I just wear them sometimes, just to control the front part; and bantu knots are not working yet. Everybody says it’s because it is too short and maybe I can’t find the right products. The whole search takes a looong time.
Anyway, it’s hard wear the same style and just wait. And it’s inspiring as well as frustrating watching those tutorials and wonderful results that never work for me.
I understand these ladies because the mirror is a challenge everyday. But while my beautiful big afro doesn’t come and I can finally do some terrific twists and bantu knots, I just keep them tied up, eat right, drink a lot of water, buy good products, focus my attention on make-up, clothes, my work, my hobbies and my humor… Maybe I can try all those styling ideas in two or three years.

Tracienatural
Tracienatural

Hi, Nena. You can actually get kinky twists with afro kinky bulk hair, which is a type 4 hair (synthetic). After 2 weeks, I wash my kinky twists every week. I deep condition every week. I use the LOC method to moisturize everyday. I have had wonderful growth. You should try it. It might work for you. If you go on Youtube, you could see how to install yourself and save a ton of money. Be blessed.

Daiquiri A. Holland

I colored my hair on purpose so that i wouldn’t be able to relax, even if i wanted to. I came dangerously close to getting a texture softener in the very beginning so glad i didn’t, because apparently i can achieve all the styles I’ve ever wanted, without it, and i never knew that before.

Tamika Birmingham

They can have it…I’ve worked to hard and long to turn back now. #Teamnatural.

Markisha Walmack

I’ve never had a perm I just found a way to straighten my hair to where ppl think I have one cause I like my hair to move lol but I’ve been wear natural styles for almost two months straight

Chyna Mon'et

I haven’t permed my hair for almost 15 years. I often wear weave but when I wear my natural out I love it.

Dani Smith

I never think about going back! The chemicals the risk its not worth it! Self love and knowledge of self is key!

Mona Mona Mona

What happened to uplifting my sister? ?? Being natural does not make anyone better. ..it simply implies that you made a choice…and not necessarily a better choice. …everything is not for everybody. My daughters have chosen to relax their hair…I chose to start over naturally. ..and sweetie let me tell you …I have some moments. ..but to be bashed because of differences for something as trivial as hair texture…come on. Stay beautiful my sisters.

Katrina Killian

Happy nappy

Rivian Jones

I don’t care either way after this grows to the length I want I might put a perm on it. The only reason I’m natural is because I have waves that Men try to train there hair to have. My point is if I didn’t have this wavy texture trust I wouldn’t be doing this. Natural hair isn’t convenient!

Wilma Latimore

I’m never going back to the creamy crack !!!

Dani Smith

The thing that really makes me sad is when we say natural hair is hard or its not for everyone God gave you curly kinky coily hair for a reason! EMBRACE IT!

Vee Smith

God is so awesome that he blessed ppl with knowledge and know how to change it. we all do things to make us unique or work with our lifestyle. God love us the same. i hate when ppl think we dont love ourselves because we do something different than THEM.

Dani Smith

Knowledge of self is the biggest blessing!!!!! Actually loving yourself and saying you love yourself is two different things!

Riyah Thom Martina

As long as they love it and know how to handle both, there is nothing tonworty about, ambrace your hair, no mather what!

Donna Davis

There are products out there that will help you manage natural hair quite easily (Victoria’s Secret hydrating line, and some It’s a 10 products), but, that’s the cool thing about our hair. Some of us want to wear it curly, kinky, and some straight. We are all so different. Lol.

Rick Smith

My gf too

Karimah Harley

Just relaxed my hair after 9mos of being natural, its just not for me!!

Toni Jackon

It wad stupid to go natural then u went rght back to relax what was that!

Anita Melton

3 years natural..I will never go back..not being judgemental but Im learning so much about my hair and health naturally..When I straighten my hair..omg..it looks amazing..#lovingbeingallnatural

Megail Kaires Mckinley

Why relax it, why not just flat iron it?

Jamillah Davis

I wrk out often and have 4c hair. Far ironing 4 me and other women is not the best option cuz my hair would b a mess after 1 wrkout.

Megail Kaires Mckinley

Thanks! That makes sense…

Assata Knox

I love it; thank you for pointing out that ultimately, the health of the hair–be it relaxed or natural–is what we should be MOST concerned about.

Angel Higginbotham

Im ready to get a perm…I prefer natural hair but its really hard at the gym and when ur not single lol.

Kiana CreativeCyre Anderson

I’m use to not getting perms for almost 4 years now. I love every bit of the natural hair. Honestly, it’s saving me a lot of money from buying the perm kit and going to the salon.

Karen SteelersDiva Hobson

I was natural for almost 3 yrs. Going bank soon.

Adriane Washington

Wow…I just did the big chop….and I feel free now…I’ve been without a perm for 6 months now,trying to test myself, an see if I could do it….One if My Proudest Moments…

Chelsea Crouch

Would never go back. My hair is tough but its growing so long so quickly i cant turn back now. I need to see how far it’ll grow lol

Kelly Hall

Natural hair is great! What problems at the gym??? White girls sweat out their “natural” hair at the gym too. White, relaxed, natural still gotta wash sweaty hair, right?? I rock my curly micro twists to the gym, sweat em out, cowash in the shower, moisturize,n Im out!

Jamillah Davis

Everyone’s hair texture and length might not b like yours. I wrk out too and am natural but weaves cuz I don’t have time to wash my hair everyday after my 7a.m. wrkouts b4 wrk. My hair is 4c and shoulder length and I can’t see washing it 3 days a week after wrkg out.

Angela Williams

Kelly Hall U are right! People think White women have it easy!….I’ve watched some of those White ladies with curly hair on YouTube & their process for Wash & Go’s are the same as ours & just as tedious, and if they can wash their hair everyday then why are we complaining?!!

Andrea
Andrea

ITA I think as a natural it’s easier to wash my hair more often. I used to work out a lot and now I don’t but I still wash my hair like 3 times a week.

Reneshia Graham

I just want to say naturally cyrly hair is not the only thing God gave us..he also gave us armpits that grow hair,legs that grow hair and some of us with lip hair, so are we embracing that or are we just bashing the people for personal decisions they make, for the ones who have a problem with how other people style their own hair are you offering a helping hand, like paying for the products that help with moisture or how about detangling for the people u choose to talk about. #getagriponwhatsimportant

Cylinda Shenise

Nothing is wrong with natural or relaxed hair. As long as it’s taken care of. Trust me you can be natural and have damaged broken off hair. I’ve been there myself. If you’re not doing their hair every morning let ppl do what’s convenient for them! I’ve seen ppl with relaxers with hair down their back and bald headed naturals. Just take care of your hair. Most ppl complaining about the chemicals ppl put on their head also eat fast food, processed hormone injected food. So unless your 100% an organic eater you don’t have an argument. Worry about what’s going into your body before what’s going on with your hair lol.

Kelly Hall

I dont get the argument of “healthy” relaxed hair if you bathe your head in toxic chemicals every 6 weeks, 9 or 10 times every year for decades. I feel that is the fallacy of that argument, you are deluding yourselves with the health aspect.

LaShawn Chamberlain

It’s a personal choice. I permed my hair for a yr after becoming natural for 10yrs. And I’ve cut it again and have been natural for 2 1/2 yrs. It’s just hair. For me, it depends on what style I’m going for.

Angela Jenkins

My hair has been natural for 6 yrs n it’s time for a change …I think i might go back to the creamy crack…just thinking about it LOL

Kianna House

Being natural was a choice, and for those who choose to go back to perms, that’s their choice. This is hard at times, however I’m happy with the choice I made. Not mad at ANYONE who chose to go b ack. Healthy hair is the most important.

Priscilla Washington

I’ve been natural for a total of 15 years, and went back twice for about two years or so both times. My hair can be a lot of work at times, but going back again is no longer an option. My hair is always worse in the long run when I try to make it do, what’s not natural for it to do. It’s kinks for life for me!