It’s Perfectly Fine To Fail Occasionally In Your Natural Hair Journey

Woman with short colored natural hair looking thoughfulA wise woman once said “Its my party and I can cry if I want to” and a famous black guy once said “It’s my prerogative” over and over again in one of his songs and a Rasta man once said “Baby don’t worry about a thing, cause every little thing is gonna be alright”.

While none of these songs can be considered highly intellectual they are very applicable to what I am about to say. Your natural hair journey is YOUR journey, not mine, not your best friend’s, yours!

It’s your party and you are free to do what it is that you want to do with your hair. There is a lot of ‘fear’ out there and quite frankly it’s understandable after all natural hair is very new to some of us and when we start a new journey we do not want to ‘mess things up’.

What I am telling you though is relax and live a little, if you really want to color your hair, then do it! If you really want to use your new flat iron and wear your hair straight for a while then do it. Maybe you just want to relax your kinks a bit by trying the Brazilian Keratin Treatment, forget the naysayers, do THAT.

Before we get into the meat of the matter lets be clear; this post is meant to encourage freedom and healthy mistakes but not outright recklessness.

We can give advise until we are blue in the face but the fact remains that some people simply learn better by experience. So we are saying feel free to take care of your hair based on the knowledge you have acquired about how your hair works. The thing is, it’s kind of a catch 22 because you will never know how your hair works unless you fail on occasion.

For example, if you have never flat ironed your hair before and you want to try it, gain some knowledge beforehand by researching on best practices to pr0tect your hair. We would never recommend turning up the heat on your device to the highest level and letting it rest on your hair until it melts away, what sense would that make?


Rather with the knowledge you have gained and using a reasonable temperature setting, you should try using heat responsibly if you so desire and if you fail at it, examine the cause and effects, grow from it and move on knowing more about your hair than you did before.

Originally posted 2014-02-12 15:00:36.

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About Petra


Hi I'm Petra Lomax , a staff writer and editor for BlackHairInformation.com . I am Jamaican born and raised and moved to the United States in my early 20's. I have a BA in Political Science and International relations as well as an MBA and a Masters In Project Management. I love travel, culture and anything that has to do with creative media and business.

About Petra


Hi I'm Petra Lomax , a staff writer and editor for BlackHairInformation.com . I am Jamaican born and raised and moved to the United States in my early 20's. I have a BA in Political Science and International relations as well as an MBA and a Masters In Project Management. I love travel, culture and anything that has to do with creative media and business.

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Elizabeth Fathers Promise Pendergrass

LCO works better on my hair that LOC. What works for someone else may not work for you.

Angela Oliver-Lott

I did the big chop :/ I wish I waited the relaxer out. I was able to do a lot more with my longer hair.

Ruth Nunes

Watching too many youtube videos:). I learn patience is a virtue and I need more of it and tons of oil and moisture to deal with my 4c(i think) and gray combination.

Linda Taylor Henderson

My daughter has the same problem and she’s use the african black soap which hasvdone wonders for her acne but nothing for her scalp.

Linda Harrell

I got a silk wrap once and got severe heat damage. That was my first one ever. Had to cut my hair off. Wasn’t happy about that.

Andrea Angie Tater

Washing and not combing it …..tangled mess later

Yeshemabeth Chin

Her eyebrows are on point!

Kierra Lante

That I should’ve big chopped longgg ago since I was wearing weave anyway! Best thing I did

Lj Staggers

Yeah, no, or “I’ll take consideration of.”? Taishia Wilson

Taishia Wilson

Didn’t work

Lj Staggers

So, you’ve tried it?

Mary Carroll

I love color although i dnt color often i have to remember to add moisture

Natalie
Natalie

I used one of those black, elastic hairbands to make a puff and as I was slowly sliding the band into place. I thought my hair looked cuter when the band was not all the way on top of my head. I kept it over the wider part of my head. It was tight but I thought it would be alright. By the time I got home from work, my head was throbbing! I lost my hair where the band was digging in on the top and sides of my scalp. Clean baldness and I still have dents in my scalp in the thickness and shape of the hairband! My hair is about 6 inches long so this was rather devastating. I style around the spots and thanks to Jamaican Black Castor Oil, my hair is coming back.

James Stone

no matter what u pretty yes

Shevonne Welch

I should let my natural hair grow out before i cut it

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Cb Sampson

By not big chopping sooner and keeping that stringy relaxed hair on my head longer than I should love my natural locks