Natural hair is convenient, unique, great, easy to style, and versatile yada yada yada, not all the time! There are times when having your hair in its natural state can be downright annoying and frustrating.
Here are some picks for the top most frustrating things that us naturalista’s have to deal with sometimes on a daily basis with our hair.
1. Single Strand knots – You have done everything, moisturize seal, moisturize seal, trim moisturize seal all in that order, and still as you examine your hair there are millions of these little knots that will just not go away.
There is nothing more frustrating than thinking you are doing everything right and noticing something that may indicate that you are doing something wrong.
There are many ‘solutions’ for single strand knots all over the blogs and forums, one thing holds true if you wear your hair in its kinky* curly state the more likely these knots will occur. The only solution that may successfully work is keeping your hair stretched, moisturized and prayer!
2. You can never accomplish a great hair style twice – You wake up in the morning hit the bathroom and allow your creative juices to flow. Suddenly you have created the coolest flyest style ever and your only hope is that you can replicate it at some future date.
Two weeks go by and you try it again, but it doesn’t look quite the same as it did the last time. You don’t know if it’s the products, your creative juices have suddenly diminished, Venus is no longer aligned with Mars or your fingers aren’t working; who knows!
But no matter what you do there is no replicating that same style that you were able to accomplish just a few days ago. What gives? If this ever happens to you the best bet is to embrace the differences that may come about and rock the style anyway!
Pamela Hurd says
So beautiful nice pic!!!
Tanaja Greene says
The texture
Chantal Brown says
A lot:
How painful it can be when combing sometime, my arms hurt detangling, can’t achieve the right style for my face.
But I love my hair regardless still
S Dot White says
Um it has a mind of it’s own
S Dot White says
Chantal try Wen Hair Care by Chaz Dean. It’s great for softness & manageability!
S Dot White says
That’s what I use & I love it!
Kimi Sunflower Taylor says
Too many products needed to make it look smooth and shiny the way I like.
Red Supafyre says
Sooooo dry..haven’t found anything to help that yet 🙁
Claudene Gysman says
You should try The greenhouse effect also known as the baggy method.
Wylene Barber Turner says
The greenhouse effect is awesome. I do it while I sleep.
Candice Perry says
what’s the green house effect??
Chavis Pinky says
Cream of nature shampoo and conditioner with Argan oil helped me with the dryness and I use essential oils I mix them in my hair grease and I have them in a spray bottle …
Jo Jo says
Shrinkage…
Constance Renee Taylor says
Trying 2 find the right texture specialist for my haircare. #DMV
Felisha Fee-nominal Michelle says
I use wen generic Chantal Brown and @s dot S Dot White and the beautiful textures line has a good detangler I love it.
Jazzy Jae Lewis says
#4 is the story of my life! I’ve broken out so BAD! But my hair looks great. I can’t win.
Tanaja Greene says
Don’t get me wrong i love black coarse hair my hair is fine and snappy it breaks fast and you can’t do anything to it without damaging it
Shawnnita Larkins says
Frizz…. lost of shine…. wet detangling…. finding the best products for my hair…. single strand knots…. in that order… those are my 5 🙂
Claudene Gysman says
The tangles and knots
Tanaja Greene says
Nappy
Cheryl Jenkins says
Dryness,tangling,no shine oh and did i say the dryness,smh
Jewel KatanaKutie Glover says
The fact that I have to devote an entire day to my hair routine…or most of the day depending on the style I choose. Lol
Maria Antoinette says
The dryness. The products are too expensive to keep trying stuff
Chavis Pinky says
Try cream of nature shampoo and conditioner with Argan oil….
Norene Heard says
ITS GOOD, I LIKE THE ARGAN MOISTURIZER AS WELL
Хенли Янукович says
Amen
Divva Ross-Burke says
I use to have problems with dry hair and I tried Kimmaytubes (shes a youtuber) homemade condition and it works wonders. She no longer have the ingredients on her site since she came out with her own product, but I’ll post it on here for those who want to try it. Everyone says it works wonders.
2 tablespoons of YOUR preferred conditioner (silicone free) pref. Kinky Curly
2 tablespoons of (Whole leaf version) Aloe Vera Juice with a pH 4.0 or 4.5
2 teaspoons of Castor Oil (optional)
2 teaspoons of Jojoba Oil
Hrh Manye Korkor Darlyn says
So soft you can’t dread it the way u like. When I twist it looks too curled up.
Bran McPhail says
Dryness and no shine
Ash Taylor says
That pretty much everything that works for others, does NOT work for me.
That, and how fragile my hair is
LaDawn Leek says
How fast its growing. I love my natural hair; but even with all the years of relaxing my hair has always grown long and thick. Now its growing 2xs as fast. I transitioned for a year 2yrs ago; but I’m seriously considering doing a big chop just to give me a break from it for a bit.
Nina Washington says
Shrinkage and 4C lack of curl pattern.
Shareese Shearrill-Johnson says
Just when it looks the way you want it to look your scalp lets you know it’s time to wash it
Lisa Wilson says
I would say Frizz in humid weather and dryness definitely.
Red Supafyre says
Ive tried greenhouse :(…maybe its just me i want a shine…
Sunny Vibes says
Tangles
Sunny Vibes says
Plus shrinkage
Ciarra MG says
I don’t need twists or braids to get ringlets, just the right product. When wet, they’re these beautiful spirals, but when dry, my hair is wispy, poofy, and undefined 🙁
Kimberly Casey says
I love my hair…if I just HAAAD to say something negative it wud be I want to change my texture from 3c to 4b.
LaKeetha Hatch-Brantley says
Lack of curl definition w/4c hair
Angeline Nolovelost Hudson says
There is a remedy (I feel) to all the problems. 1) Dry hair? Deep condition more often! Truth be told your hair was probably just as dry, if not dryer in its relaxed state. 2) Natural, Pure Oils. This helps with the dryness and seals in the moisture. Hot oil treatments are great and help with sealing in moisture and keeping hair soft. 3) Products!!?? I know trying different things can be expensive. I mean back in the relaxed days, a good $7 relaxer, some setting lotion, and wrap papers were all we needed. To go through product trial and error, I would suggest Curl Kit or Curl Box. For $20-$25 a month they send samples of products and 2-4 full size bottles of product. You can cancel at anytime with no fees (i believe)…
Hope my ramblings helped someone!!
Amanda Bradley says
Shrinkageeee lmaoo nd you gotta prep everything there’s no lettin it go for a day or 2 gotta put some twist in or deal with a beast
Imani Malika says
Henna helps with shrinkage and loss of shine. It hasn’t loosened my curl pattern but it gets tangled less and actually shines now. Try cassia if you don’t want the red tones that henna leaves behind.
Mags Militant Gidney says
Shrinkage. Tangles. Breakage (on the ends.) Tired of 2-day styles.
Crystal Mari Gaines says
Nothing. I go with the flow and learn through it.
Donna Chesser says
Hard to keep moisture.
Donna Chesser says
People is going to think I am crazy, but after I stopped relaxing my hair, I discovered that my hair texture is curly silk wavy, and I hate it!!!!! I love my hair when it was kinky I miss it.dang it was much stronger, kinkier,. Now it tooo soft.
Ivy Jackson says
Finding the right products
SharonSophisticated Vass says
Crystal Mari Gaines me too lol!! olive oil or Shea moisturizer
Cerissa C Bickham says
Hair is growing too slow and very thin
Carla Brooks says
Donna Chesser I understand, I love playing in my daughter’s 4c hair versus my wavy, curly hair
Juanetta Taylor says
Shrinkage, moisture, and fairy knots!
Adrienne Hardaway McCroskey says
The 3 different textures!
S'eivol Ymmom says
People trying to touch my hair ugh!!!!!!!
Aimee Sweetthang Graham says
Too frizzy
Torii NoLimits Traylor says
Dryness
Shrinkage
And how it cant take that much heat without a protectant :/ Im starting to wanna perm it after a year and of being natural
Andrea Angie Tater says
Big poof!!!! Always in a bun need a style for a narrow/straight face 😛
Roz G Will says
I don’t have shrinkage strangly BUT that Not achieving the same hairstyle twice is satan!!! I HATE that!!! My husband will love a style and say “do that more babe” and then its an epic fail!!! But I still ADORE my natural hair!!
Roz G Will says
I have two differe textures of hair right now because Of heat damage so my ends from te front of my head to the middle are completely straight. While the back is fully natural!! Cant wait for it all to grow out:-/
Latasha Gordon says
Tangles and knots
Sharon Hytche-Cunningham says
Shrinkage, shrinkage, shrinkage!!! It’s already short then has the nerve to shrink some more! Ugh!!
Robin Kidd says
Shrinkage and the dryness. Just transitioning for 6mos. Can’t figure out what to do to it. Jealous of any one with the puffy hair.
LaTanya McDowell says
Why post something to focus on the negative? As if black women don’t fight enough to accept the beauty of their hair. All of what we are listing as a negative is what was programmed into us by society. There is nothing wrong with shrinkage or any other characteristics of natural hair. It’s NATURALLY the way it is, therefore is BEAUTIFUL.
Jamillah Davis says
Finding the right products for my super thick, 4C hair and figuring out how to style it in something other than keeping it in braids and sew-ins for convenience.
Derica Minter says
LaTanya, the post did not say, “what’s wrong with your natural hair” they just asked us to mention something that frustrates natural haired individuals. It’s just a small release to share with others and someone might post a solution for that individual. However I do agree that there’s nothing wrong with shrinkage, I love it!
Derica Minter says
I only know about three styles for my hair to hide the two textures (wavy in the front and curly in the back) -_- thank God for the winter because my hats and scarves hide it well lol
Lozette Clemons says
My dry scalp and different textures throughout my head
Chelly Sweetest-Taboo Allen says
I’ve been natural for 6 months and if I post the length of my hair compared to the big chop you guys wouldn’t believe it! However, I do not like the natural curls in the back and wavy in the front. I went through so many products and I realized that something cheap helps with shrinkage and dry hair. When I don’t go and get my hair fixed by my Natural Hairstylist I use coconut hair grease. Use lots of it folks! The shine is unbelievable and your hair is eating away! Also deep conditioners mixed with hot oil treatments! Finally, if you don’t want to use the coconut hair grease use Natural Shea Butter with coconut oil, vitamin E, olive oil, & jojoba oil. There’s videos in YouTube to help you mix them. I go to an African store and buy the Natural Shea Butter! Good luck folks and treat your hair as if it was your stomach! Feed it!!!
Denise Franklin-Abner says
Tangles and frizz. I have several different types of hair. The crown is very kinky, the front and back is wavy and straight, and the sides are coily. The all respond differently to products so its hard to find one thing to use.
Ferrari Ware says
The dryness is what drives me crazy and because if it being dry, the crazy itching. And like Maria Antoinette said, you keep buying different stuff and you still end up where you started, dry and itchy
Linda Aunt Faye Pettis says
Not growing…can’t stay moisturized…help me!!!
Natalia Boyer says
The longer it gets the more maintenance! Im thinking about wearing a short natural. I have three babies, I don’t have time to baby my hair too! Lol!
Hadassah Amina Baht Yisrael says
Fairy knots
Katy Kat Dalton says
Dryness and trying to get the right moisture balancd. And the stress that is wash day- tangles, knots and dealing with my 4c hair. 🙁
Loriel PopsicleToes Shannon says
Detangling!!
Shauna Makingchanges Myers says
so dry and since I did the big chop 2 weeks ago I cant style it yet
Happy Venance says
Ilike
Valerie Johnson says
Curly at the root, straight on the ends…ugh…
Tab Denise Bar says
Thickness…..to twist it, means to have tired arms and a half-finished head….ugh! But I love my natural!
AnitraMsneat Winters says
The shrinkage, and not findings the right product yet to keep it looking moisturized
Frankye Campbell says
Good Information!!!
Monica Brown says
Itchyness
Ashlee Aimee Mckeiver says
I can’t really think of anything other than long wash days and having to wash in sections. Other then that I good 🙂
Joyvaundra Kimyautta Bester says
Trying to retain moisture!
Chamika Guy-Bridges says
Shrinkage mostly, itchy scalp and dry hair that caused breakage at one time until I was introduced to natural Shea butter mixed with castor oil,olive oil,carrot oil, and avocado oil
Anani Bat-Yahawadah says
My 4b/c hair is super dry no matter what i do! Ugh! Never have this problem in the summer!
TorrieLisa Jacobs says
Shrinkage I know it’s a sign of healthy hair but dang I look like I have chin length hair when it’s actually colar bone length.
Retta Williams-allen says
I love my natural curls,its the detangling that I hate.
Tammilee Brown says
shrinkage, dryness, thicness
Annette Gibbs says
The tangling, its to wavy, and ultra puffy.
La'Charae Brown says
Cut
Ebony McKenna says
Dryness. Its fine when I put my moister products in but by the end of the day its so dry. Shrinkage. When braided its past my shoulders but when in my afro it barley passes my ears ! Still love being natural though
Lisa Imunique Price says
I use Hawaiian Silk moisturizer which works for me. But the shrinkage when I sweat or wet hair- I don’t like
Georgia Goddidit Boatright says
CUTIEEEEE
Kimmie Reynolds says
Umm the problem I have is the tangles so I two strand twist often to combat breakage.
Kerimah Rogers says
If I had one question for God it would be why did He give me hair that is so difficult to deal with……I can’t do anything with my hair and it won’t lay down no matter what product I use. It’s frusturating and I hate it.
Dianne Hickman says
So cute
Jasmine Raizelle says
Detangling and the millions of products you have to use to keep your hair moisturized!
Thomasina Ricks says
its rebellious nature
Rhonda Vargas says
My hair is fragile so it breaks easily…
Karmann Williams-Valentine says
I love my hair, but its more work than I thought it would be.
Carmella McCoy says
Thin ends. No matter how many times I cut them off or try to prevenr them. >:^[
Vanessa Olszen says
Maintaining moisture.
Carmella McCoy says
The Greenhouse Effect Method helps me maintain moisture. I also spritz once or twice a day with rose water whenever it begins to feel dry.
Vanessa Olszen says
Girl its like watering a plant lol.
Carmella McCoy says
YEP HAHAHA!
Tuere Randall says
Too damned time consuming.
Regina Stevenson says
How hard it is to detangle.
Kimberly Govan says
This is a great post! It allows us to see an unspoken commonality. It also allows others to offer remedies to our frustrations.
Kilta Stylkiltanemkindly Jordan says
Shrivles up with water/humidity…drinks grease, manigability, cock hairs look alikes all on the floor, gotta braid or twist it down before bed everynight
Doris Morrison says
the driness,my srinkage.
Nicole Malone Carroll says
Combing and styling.
Jennifer Derima says
Split ends! How to be rid of them!
Goldie Doll Wilson says
The thickness, the constant shrinkage, along with getting matted way to quick. On top of that i have no clue on how to do hair. I can only go as far as a ponytail. But with practice makes…uhmmm almost perfect. Lol
Kiwana Buford says
The shrinkage in knots
Francine Brown says
I’ve been natural for 6 years, and I’ve tried every product made for ethnic hair. After yeaes of frustration, I’ve found that Garnier Fructis has provided my extremely thick hair w/ moisture and great manageability. It seemed highly unlikely but I definitely recommend that line.
Latrice Caples says
One side of my head the hair is like really curly and shrunken. Then the other side is more loose and the curls are less defined #FRUSTRATED #LOPSIDED
Sabrina Scott says
Mine isn’t growing I use she butter and Jamaican castor oil every other day No growth and some breakage.
Sabrina Scott says
Been natural for 10 months
Charlena Hunt says
Sabrina go to the grocery store.. Bye some of these oils.. Take some vitiman e supplements and watch your hair grow .. Don’t buy anything for your hair that u cannot digest.. Get out the beauty store and n the grocery store for oils
http://hair.allwomenstalk.com/best-natural-oils-to-use-for-your-hair
Jovanne Lovesomeme Harper says
Trying to find products for my hair and cute easy styles I can do at home
Latonya Chisolm says
My hair so soft when I wash and condition it but when it’s completely dry, my kinky curls are less manageable when I braid it down.
Tanesha Grace says
Sabrina Scott I have the same issue. Its not growing.
Sharon Noe Mkumbuzi says
i lose my top when stylists treat it like a floor rag…….and traction alopecia. Gaaawwwd!!
Хенли Янукович says
I have very long hair and i have to comb them all the time they get dry easy … flat ironing my hair can last more than one hour …
Ashley D Shannon says
Yes this is my weekly migrane
Tyrell Timothy Speed says
Natural hair should not be frustrating because it grows in such a unique texture and it is a shield to manipulation. I love natural hair and it is so better than relaxed hair and is more healthier. More Black women need to go natural and leave the perms alone because want to tell Black men to cut their hair off but a lot of them are walking around with dead permed hair looking like sluts. GO NATURAL
Sylvie Hatiana Ya Luana says
Nothing
Nadine M Guy says
People’s attitude
Jemica Marie says
Negative thinking yields negative results. Be grateful!
Ourécia Hoefdraad says
Knots
Tsebo Kobbina says
Terrible everything terrible just have to get used to it I guess no choice
Betsy Fernandez says
keeping it moisturized
Shelly Forde says
My awkward length.
Linda Cushman says
It has its own personality, will pop off an attitude, does what it wants to do! Acts like its own lil person! She thru Shade one day beotch got cut completely OFF! NOW WHAT?! Grow back! EXACTLY!